What to do with adhd behaviorial issues?

Dee - posted on 03/25/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have an eleven yr old who acts like a seven year old. He yells and makes noises when he doesnt get his way. He always is nagging me or his brother to do something for him. He constantly has to have my attention. He has a problem with authority from me as well as his teachers. He even tries to override my friends when he is at their house. It gets very embarrassing and honestly, I am embarrassed and so is my oldest son. It's hard to even go out to eat with him because he acts this way. I have tried everything (grounding, taking his stuff, I have even had to take all of his stuff away because wouldn't control himself.

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Dee - posted on 11/30/2012

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we do go to a psychiarist but he doesnt listen he is now 14 and is doing much better he has learned to control himself with out meds and he just needed some time to learn what behavior was appropriate and what wasnt in certain settings i had to teach him that. the psychriarist helped some but he just couldnt understand him.

Jennifer - posted on 03/25/2010

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Being a mother with ADHD, it was expected that my boys would also be afflicted and they are. My oldest is now 25 and is able to concentrate well enough now that he's continuing university studies.
My youngest died in a car accident after his father who he'd only just moved to live with for a while, bought him a car. Jackson didn't concentrate on Anything. Certainly not on driving inexperienced.
I was (heavily) disciplined and I also had to let my kids know what was and what wasn't appropriate behaviour. We had our ups and downs but both boys turned into lovely adults.
Stuff what other people think. The most important thing is your child and your relationship with him. As long as they know that you love them, they'll be okay. Get help. There's usually an ADHD support group or knowledgeable psychiatrist or child mental health clinic where you can get help and advice. Adhd isn't a life sentence and nothing to be ashamed of. I found it best to make my boys "responsible" for their behaviour and if they played up in public (which they did often), they got punished. He may need to be told that he can't piss people off in their homes though. Take no crap Mum! Good Luck!

Iridescent - posted on 03/25/2010

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Are you both seeing a psychologist/psychiatrist? He needs help to learn what behavior is appropriate, and you need help to learn how to respond in a way that will be effective. The only way I know of to teach this on a continuing basis is with regular appointments for psych care. Also, if it's an unbearable issue, perhaps it's time to consider medication, although that's after behavior therapy has been tried.

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