what to do with child fighting an addiction

Nancy - posted on 01/28/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 23 years old and for the past 3 and half years has been fighting a herion addiction. she has been in multiple rehabs and for the past 7 months she was in recovery houses and was kicked out of 5 of them for using, The reason why i sent her away to the recovery houses is because i found her on her floor of her bedroom and she had overdoesed in the middle of the night, The next morning o took her to the drug intake unit and told her she could not come home until she was clean Well from rehab she went to the reocovery house and so one fro there, she still has not seen the light, I thought by her going far away fron people she knew would help her but it has not, Now after i annother rehab they found another recovery house in different area, My mother on the other hand keeps thinking we have to still give her everyting she wants because she was in rehab for 28 days now she is clean. Yes she is clean but i cannot give her anything at this point she has not proven herself, I told her she needs think of her life and p ut herself first but the only one who can make that change is her. My mother helps her make excuses for why sge uses i feel she is killing her at the same time. If she does not hit bottom she will not get out of her pattern of destruction, I just don't know what to do i love my daughter to death but i an at the end of my rope with her, If anyone could help me i would appreciate it,

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Amy - posted on 01/28/2013

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Unfortunately there is nothing you can do to make her clean and keep her clean. Your mother is enabling her behavior and as long as someone keeps enabling her she will never hit rock bottom. Rock bottom for everyone is different. You should get yourself to a family support group for families and friends of addicts, maybe bring your mom along so she can see how destructive her behavior is. 28 days is a start but your daughter has a lifelong battle in front of her and unfortunately as with any addiction is very easy to slip back into even after years of recovery.

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Nancy - posted on 01/28/2013

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she graduated from high school and she was going back to school for graphic arts in the begining of her addiction but she dropped out, I thought of that too but she needs to get herself together mind wise before she can jump back into school, When she went back to school if was after her first rehab and i thought the same thing but after paying her tuition she just stopped going due to the drugs:(

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