Lissa - posted on 04/23/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )
I am a mother of one child, who will be 18 in two months. Now, due to her religious upbringing she has been very sheltered. Over the course of her life, she has struggled with extreme social anxiety. Now, she is just about to go off to university(all the away across the world) and I am worried that my husband and I have not prepared her.
Just recently, she has began to open up and make new friends. She has one friend, who is more outgoing and encourages my daughter to open up. I have allowed her to sleepover at her house several times but my husband is against the idea. Even her grandmother, had a nervous breakdown the first time she slept over. I think she is just used to always going out together, which is something we have done in the past. While, I am learning to let go, my husband and my mother-in-law are questioning my parenting skills. Of course, I don’t want anything to happen to my daughter but I have a personal relationship with her. While she is quiet, she is very opinionated. To be honest, I think if someone were to present her with drugs, she’d probably give them an entire lecture about how bad they are. I simply want her to be her own individual. It saddens me as a mother to see how anxious she is, simply ordering her own food!
What should I do? Should I continue to set boundaries or give her more freedom?