What to feel when you are disrespected by a child? (Not Yours)

Cashonda - posted on 06/14/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )




I am so upset right now. All I could do was come here for advice. I was disrespected to the point of no return called every name in the book by a no more than ten year old child. I went to the child's house and the mom was not home. The older brother was there and I asked him to please relay the message to his mom about what went on. I still don't feel any better and somehow I feel like nothing will be done. SMH.. #Irate What can you guys say to help me feel better?


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Stifler's - posted on 06/14/2011




Remember that you are the adult. Use the voice of "I'm an adult don't mess with me" when kids start that shit. Don't take it. And don't let it get to you that some dumb shit kid was raised badly.

JuLeah - posted on 06/14/2011




Well, where you do think this child learn to treat folks like that? How is he treated? You hear disrespect, and I get that. I hear desperate cry for help.

Amber - posted on 06/14/2011




I know exactly how you feel. Just last weekend, I took my two year old son with myself and my hubby to an afternoon movie. Now, he's two, so he's going to talk, but the theater was full of teenagers. They were so rude, they were constantly telling me to tell my son to shut the f*** up and putting their feet over my seat and knocking over my drink and they even took my son's candy from him. They also went and tattled to the manager who asked us to leave because WE were disturbing everyone else. My husband promptly swept up our son and left and I followed not long after him, in tears as the teenagers, EVERY SINGLE ONE of them applauded and shouted that I was a terrible mother for bringing my kid to the movies. I also would like to let you know that it was NOT a movie he couldn't have seen. It was certainly child friendly. I was appalled and so upset that I didn't know what to do. I spoke to (aka yelled at profusely) to the manager, received my money back, and made several complaints to the home office for allowing such nonsense to go. The worst part about it is that it's not the theater's fault and I realize that now, it's those teenagers. And none of their parents were around so there is NOTHING I can do. It's very difficult to let something like that go, especially considering that he's a toddler and he can't defend himself.

Anyway, the point I'm trying to make is that kids anymore aren't being taught respect or with discipline any longer and are just expected to exist. I have to let it go (though I haven't) and I have to learn from this, which is the best thing you can do, too. The other thing I've learned is to pick my battles. Yeah, you can tell their parents all you want, but if their parents don't care, you're done for. I'm also going to make that day an example for my son and make sure he knows that what they did was wrong and hateful and hurtful and he should NEVER treat ANYONE like that EVER...

Cashonda - posted on 06/14/2011




Thank You both. It actually feels better also that I could just get it off my chest to someone. You both are right. Don't let a kid get under my skin like that. I guess I could not believe I was being spoke to that way and I think what made me even more upset, is it was in front of my daughter and I raise her to treat your elders or people in general with respect. Thanks Again.

Jennifer - posted on 06/14/2011




Agree with September, don't let the kid get to you, and talk to the mom directly. Every parent raises their child differently and sadly some don't teach their children to respect adults and there's not a whole lot you can do about it other than correct them at the time, and tell the parents.

September - posted on 06/14/2011




Don't let a child get under your skin like that. I would go to his house again when his mom is home and talk with her. Maybe that will make you feel better? I'm sorry.

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