Bonnie - posted on 10/30/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
My mother has been a major problem in our lives for years and years. There is a major incident every Six months, we are always at "fault" and we should always "apologize" to her. An incident two years ago, that also involved my brother, should have been the last straw. For my my brother it was and he no longer has anything to do with her. We however have her only two grandchildren (by blood). The latest incident involves our 13 yr old, who has failing grades, (an A-B student til this yr) and is grounded. My mother wants him at a garage sale, that for my kids is fun, and we have said he can't come. Naturally she asked why and we told her, he's failing, he's grounded. She proceeds to ask well haven't I talked to his teachers, consoler, why is this happening, etc like I am stupid, or like if I had an answer why, then he wouldn't be failing. My husband is right by my side and explains to her futher. The kid refuses to do the homework. She proceeds to tell us we are punishing HER! And then walks away from us in our home in the middle of the conversation. This is just a sampling of what has gone on for years, she is manipulative, pushy, selfish and if she can't have her own way we are made to pay for it every time. We have decided that the relationship must be severed. We will wait for the New Year. Until then I need advice on how to handle mainly my teenager(the absolute apple of her eye), when he becomes aware that he will no longer have contact with his grandmother. My younger son (11) is well aware that he is NOT the apple of her eye and I think we may have an easier time with him. Yes she plays favorites. My husband & I are aware that we're in for a bad time of it with our teenager as if we aren't having enough problems with the fact that he has decided school is stupid and pointless! But my mother is a poison I need to get out of thier lifes.