What would you do??

Barbara Christine - posted on 07/23/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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He plays football and his video game and that's it. When he's at football he has the upmost respect for his coaches but have been waiting 9 years for him to respect his step father. His dad has never been in his life and his step dad has coached his soccer team, walked to his game from work so he wouldn't miss it, and my son treats him terribly. He's 15 and tried marjiuanna and says he has had sex. He has so much potential but we aren't supposed to expect him to abide by any rules and he is to not be held accountable for anything. Help!!

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Desy - posted on 07/24/2013

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It's good he share what he did at least.

Now he is teenager.
You could have some time with him for showing your responsibiliy and trust.

Jodi - posted on 07/23/2013

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Hehehe....I have a 15 year old (almost 16). Believe me, he know which side his bread is buttered. he gives attitude about anything, we give back in spades :) It doesn't happen often. He is almost 16 and does his chores without question these days. It's all about responsibility vs. rights. I think that often the issue is, our kids think that it is all about their rights (which they DO have), but they seem to miss the part about the responsibilities. This is the age you REALLY need to reinforce the responsibility side of the equation.

Jodi - posted on 07/23/2013

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So when was the last time he ate? The last time he had clean clothes? Was taken somewhere?

No kidding.....

Do you see where I'm going?

Barbara Christine - posted on 07/23/2013

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lol. no no he gives us the attitude that we are not supposed to expect him to be accountable or abide by our rules. He walks around as if we owe him something but you better not ask of him in return. He has an amazing heart but clearly becomoing full of himself

Barbara Christine - posted on 07/23/2013

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we have grounded, taken everything away. He becomes good for a while and right back to where he was. As of now, no game, fb or internet

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Who on Earth told you that you are not supposed to expect him to abide by any rules or hold him accountable for his actions? Whoever that was, don't listen to them again.

He does need to be held accountable. You do not mention in what ways he disrespects your husband. Some specifics would help, but I'm guessing here.
If he doesn't do his homework, don't take him to football.
Also, did you buy the video game for him? If so, take it away.
If he doesn't pick up his things, donate them to charity. (Give him one warning: "Anything out of place in 10 minutes is gone forever.") Do NOT replace anything you give away, he can buy more with his own money.
If he doesn't do his laundry, don't do it for him--he'll do it the first time he is forced to wear smelly clothes to school.
Essentially, take away distractions and make him live with the consequences of his actions.

Jodi - posted on 07/23/2013

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What have been his consequences for treating his step-father with such disrespect for these 9 years you've been "waiting"?

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