Tammi - posted on 09/15/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
I am 26 years old and am 8 weeks pregnant with my first child. I am a recovering alcoholic/addict and did a lot of my using with the father of my unborn baby who is 23 (Before I got pregnant). I am now 6 months sober and my baby's daddy has repeatedly told me over and over that he is going to quit, and get clean. But he never does. When he found out I was pregnant he was really excited and is making all these plans for our family. He said he is going to get sober but won't quit dealing. He thinks selling drugs for money is the way to earn money for our family which I do not agree with but I have no way of controling him. Anyway I was living with him and his parents when they found out he was using PCP so they made me leave to protect me. With no other options on the table, my brother and his wife told me I could come stay with them. Across the COUNTRY. I just left Minnesota and came to Georgia. Now my baby's daddy is out doing his thing like he's relieved he doesnt have to put up with me. Yet he tries to make me feel guilty for running away to Georgia with his baby. He ignores my calls and texts, and when I am able to get ahold of him and am upset for obvious reasons he tells me to calm down and everything will be okay and that he will come to Georgia to be with me and our baby and clean up his act. The problem is he won't come until I get my own place. And he has never held a real job. I love him so much but Im scared that if he comes here he will just be free loading off me and I can't afford to support a baby and a baby's daddy. Everyone tells me he is no good for me, but I can't help but want to keep our family together. PLEASE HELP as I am utterly confused.