WHAT WOULD YOU DO ON HOLIDAYS?

Karen - posted on 06/25/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I am just curious for your opinion. I want you to just visualize who I am. I'm 26 year. I work part time, I go to school fulltime. I am a single mom for 4 1/2 yearold and 3 year old. I have the girls most of my times. The girls see there dad probably 2-4 times in a month only on the weekend.



When the holidays come such as easter day, halloween, christmas, thanksgiving, the dad want to share or switch off every year with them.



My thoughts are WHY Should I share those holidays with him. Why only the holiday that you want your girls? Why can't you see your kids on days that are not holidays. I've been the sole provider for them, bathing them, feeding them, clothing them, loving them each day, putting a bandage on a ouchy for them, why only on holidays you want your kids?



I am going to say some mean words. I guess I am a bit upset at this. I want to say screw it. I'm having the girls on the holidays, you can take them before or after the holiday.



I know I sound a bit unfair, let me know your thoughts mommys out there. thank you.



karen

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Sherri - posted on 11/17/2011

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Sorry but holidays are different and honestly if he took you to court any judge would force you to share or alternate holidays too.

Mair - posted on 11/17/2011

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Karen I know exactly how you are feeling right now i came accross your post while searching for some support cause im going though a similar situation. My sons dad used to see him at best 4 days a month. My son is 7 and in his 7 christmases he has always slept at home with my on Christmas eve. His father and his wife of 6 yrs just had triplets recently and it is their first christmas so now he wants my son with him on Christmas (the weekend his new job convienently gave him off) now while im trying to be a "big girl" about it and be fair but It hurts like hell to not have my baby with me especially since this may be the last year he'll believe in Santa. :(

So your not alone wish i had the answers myself but if you ever need to talk I know how you feel

Karen - posted on 06/26/2009

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Quoting Sandra:

Do you have a divorce decree or visitation agreement? In my state, the holidays alternate every other year, like you're stating. If he's not seeing them any other time, I would file for sole custody and then you don't have to worry about it. Otherwise, you can't deny him his children, especially if he's paying child support. Unfortunately.


We were never married. There was no offical agreement. It was every weekend before he stop wanting them to come over and was to busy. How do you file sole custody? Do you know a website I can go to? He is not paying child suport right now because he doesnt have a job. Thank you sandra:-)

Sandra - posted on 06/25/2009

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Do you have a divorce decree or visitation agreement? In my state, the holidays alternate every other year, like you're stating. If he's not seeing them any other time, I would file for sole custody and then you don't have to worry about it. Otherwise, you can't deny him his children, especially if he's paying child support. Unfortunately.

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