Lanie - posted on 10/18/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )
My ex whom i split up with a year ago (whom is not bio dad., but stepped up to being my daughters dad years ago)has been doing the things listed below...
She is 10 yrs old
1. Buys her anything she wants , even if her behavior has been horrible (ADD/ ODD child) ..i have tried talking to him about this numerous times, .and he comes up with excuses as to why he does this even after agreeing to stop.
2. 20 questions here about my personal life and whom i am dating, even asks the man's address...
3. Talks to her and tells her that he will NEVER tell me what she has said, even if it has to do with her welfare or her feelings about her home life with me. (ex : she feels that she hasn't spent a whole lot of time with me, but is afraid to talk to me about it) But then gets mad at me, when he mentions that she has said some stuff but refuses to tell me what she has said.
4. He has to move , so he has even talked to my landlord about getting an apartment in my building , to be 'closer to us'.
5. He has been sending me pics and video's of the BOTH of them, that he takes on his weekends with her.
6. Tells her things like ' we can't be a family because your mommy wont let us ' , ~ he left me after i lost a pregnancy, and told me he didnt think he loved me anymore so i chose to move on.
7. Asks her questions like ' what was up with your mom not letting me stay last night to tuck you in ' (i had company , and he knew this). and many more questions like this.
8. Texting her cell phone , and saying " if you feel up to it ...be good for mommy dearest" ( this one he knows gets to me , because i was abused as a child ...he has called me this before to my face and i explained to him why i didn't like the name and that i found it insulting).
9. when he has been here , and we have gotten into arguments and i ask him to leave , he yells ..." (daughters name) your mother is kicking me out again princess , so ask her why im not here!'
There is much more , but that pretty much sums it up ...
Just wanted to get everyone's opinions...