whats wrong with a man going to a baby shower?

Keera - posted on 02/24/2010 ( 26 moms have responded )

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what is so wrong with men being at a baby shower?

everyone thinks everything has to be traditional. nothing has to be traditional!!!

to me a baby shower is to congradulate the PARENTS of the child and [if money isnt an issue] bring them gifts for the baby. its for FAMILY/FRIENDS [men&women] to show their support to the PARENTS of the child.

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Dana - posted on 02/24/2010

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Wow, Keera that does sound stressful. The only thing I can say is stop battling with the MIL, you don't want a life time of it. Ignore her, let her go. It's much easier said then done and I remember being your age. It's hard to try and find yourself and establish your independence when someone is trying to boss you around. Just let it go, you'll be a happier person if you do and trust me as much as your boyfriend may bitch about his mother and as much as she is at fault, it still is his mother and him being between the two of you is no good. You've got a little one on the way, it's time to give her/him a peaceful life.

Dana - posted on 02/24/2010

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Well it's your baby shower so I'd do what you want. At the same time, is there anyway to have two showers. One for your family and one for your friends? That's if you want to avoid conflict and it's feasible

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Molly - posted on 03/14/2010

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So glad that everything went well! Everyone should be welcome, since it's an exciting time!

Keera - posted on 03/14/2010

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well my shower was yesterday. about 8guys showed up. and no one complained luckily. =]

Dorothy - posted on 02/26/2010

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I had a traditional baby shower with ladies only, and my husband brought me there to say hello to everyone, then came a little early at the end to pick me up- visited a little with everyone there. However, I see nothing wrong with men being invited. I think that if you and your husband would prefer men included you should inform whoever will host shower so that you receive your preference. After all, this shower is for you! Enjoy!

Brenda - posted on 02/26/2010

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my daughter figures it's his baby too and most of his family she doesn't know all that well.....he was happy to be there...she has a great guy...

Kelley - posted on 02/25/2010

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I do not see anything wrong with it at all, big deal man is there watching a bunch of women go gaga over baby things and pregnant women

Brenda - posted on 02/25/2010

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about a month ago we had a baby shower for my yougest daughter and her husband...couples....it' was both sides of the family & friends ...... only a couple of games (quick and simple) everyone seemed to have a great time....most of the men who attended were pleased that it wasn't what they thought it would be and were happy they attended...

and b/c of the amount of people and the colder weather, we had soup and salad for the lunchen

Cynthia - posted on 02/25/2010

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I totally agree, A baby shower is for men and women. I just help give a baby shower for my cousin and there were men and women there and we had a great time.

Juanice - posted on 02/25/2010

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There is nothing wrong with men being at a babyshower. There were men at both of my babyshowers. I think it just made it more interesting when palying some of the games. Remember that day is all about you and your baby, so do what is going to make you happy!!!! ENJOY :o)

Sheree - posted on 02/25/2010

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I know men that have been to baby showers and i also had men at my hens night :)

Becky - posted on 02/24/2010

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I don't think there's anything wrong with it. It's just that most men find them pretty boring and would rather not go!

Angel - posted on 02/24/2010

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It is more common these days to have a shower as a couple. Although some guys aren't comfortable with it. As long as your man wants to be part have him be there and invite his friends and guy friends to attend.

Tracy - posted on 02/24/2010

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I've been to several baby showers, and all but one included men. The ONE that was all women was boring, annoying, and I couldn't get out fast enough. Seriously, those games were stupid, the food garbage, and the conversations were dull. At least with the guys there the grill is going, there's a game on, and someone's got a good hunting story!

Sharon - posted on 02/24/2010

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Mostly guys aren't into this stuff.

Back in the day this is when the women got together and discussed "women things" now there are no boundaries.

I wouldn't drag my husband to a baby shower, he'd be bored to tears. all he cared about the baby stuff that we got was if it got good ratings in consumer reports.

What color, size pattern, etc he didn't give a shit about.

If he wanted to be there, great! If he doesn't its ok.

It is "congratulate" btw.

Some traditions were meant to be broken, men in the birthing room, men at baby showers, definitely meant to be broken. Other traditions have more to do with manners.

Keera - posted on 02/24/2010

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no thats fine..the thing is he is "freaking out." he is just worried about everything and keeps letting people so thing for him [for our child]. he is slowly stepping up but not like he should. he wont hardly stand up to his mom about anything [he says "shes my mom, i have to listen to her"]. he gets upset because his mom and i fight but we fight because she is trying to contol everything.

i dont know how to change things to stop all this. all of this stresses me out. i really hope everything gets better...being 18, preg [including getting everything ready], and trying to finish high school is hard & stressful enough.

Dana - posted on 02/24/2010

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Well I'm a big proponent of letting the man deal with his family and the women dealing with her own. That way there are never hard feelings, it's always easier for people to blame the spouse/significant other rather than their own child or family member. Let him deal with it and then you're not to blame. It's time he stepped up, was a man. Hells bells he's about to be a father. I hope that's not offensive.

Keera - posted on 02/24/2010

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i wish it was that easy. his mom still tries to control him like he is 5 and she treats me like i have no idea what im doing...even to the point where she tried to set up everything for our child her way [at my house] instead of helping me set it up how my boyfriend & i want it [she even complained about the curtains i have]

ive tried to be nice about everything but i dont think i can do that much longer [and i only have 5 1/2 weeks til my due date - april 3rd]

Dana - posted on 02/24/2010

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Wow, although they're still your mothers, you both are also adults getting ready to have a child of your own. I'd honestly tell them to butt out.

Keera - posted on 02/24/2010

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we are already planning on having 2 [one for family/close family friends and the other for just friends]. thing is they dont even want my half brother at the shower and i havent seen him since the summer of 2008...ive told all the guys they are welcome but our moms keep telling them "no." but im hoping they come anyway

Firebird - posted on 02/24/2010

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I think that a lot of people feel it's a 'girl thing', but there's no reason men shouldn't be there. At my cousin's shower, there were almost a dozen men there. And at mine, my grandpa hung around for a while. I've been to a few with men.

Jade - posted on 02/24/2010

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I don't see anything wrong with it...my partner does though...he wouldn't go to our friend baby shower...but when i went there were only ladies...no men were aloud lol...no men turned up to mine either...not even my partner...but i don't have a problem myself with ment going.

Keera - posted on 02/24/2010

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thing is..there are SEVERAL guys that want to be there but both my mom & my boyfriends mom want a "traditional" baby shower and want no guys there....my boyfriend has already said he is staying the whole time no matter what anyone says

Cassie - posted on 02/24/2010

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I have two male friends who attended my baby shower. My husband and all the men in our families had a golf outing that day as their "baby shower" but I did have two male friends who came to mine.

Dana - posted on 02/24/2010

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I see nothing wrong with it. Although it is nice for just the women to get together and be cheesy women. My husband popped in on mine for about 20-30 minutes to say "hi" and thank everyone. We were both happy with that, trust me he did NOT want to be there any longer than that. lol

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