When a 'mother' loses custody of 3 children at separate times in her life, should she be allowed to have a fourth without being able to meet the requirements to regain custody of the 3 previous children she brought into the world?
Lauren - posted on 07/14/2011
No rehab this time around. I do commend her for getting on a methadone program as she has been a struggling addict for 14yrs, however, she still abuses alcohol. Since there's no current law that says you cannot abuse alcohol at all esp during pregnancy no one can do anything about it. I love my sister and her children but Im concerned this new baby will end up like her previous 3 in the care of other family members because she once again is incapable of caring for him. Maybe I am wrong, but as a mother of two, I believe there should be programs or laws to prevent someone in her situation from being allowed to have more children until she proves beyond a doubt that she's able to care for a child. Where I live there's so many children in foster care and in state facilities it's extremely insane. Not sure how to help this situation.
Tara - posted on 07/13/2011
If she has gone to rehab and can prove she's clean and sober, as well as agreeing to monitoring to ensure she stays clean and sober, then yes, I would say she should be allowed to have the child and keep him.
If she is still drinking, even if she has stopped using heroin, she is still abusing that child in the womb and no, I don't think she should be allowed to have the child without monitoring and/or intervention by child protection.
Lauren - posted on 07/13/2011
Simplistic overview: my sister lost custody of her twin girls due to drug n alcohol abuse, 2yrs later had a son and he was born addicted so she lost custody of him and now 2yrs after that she's expecting another child this September. Still drinks alcohol and was using heroin earlier in pregnancy but since she's on the methadone program now shell be able to take this child home without social services getting involved.
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