Joanna - posted on 01/04/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )
I'm just wondering how many step moms are parenting for an absent mother. I've been parenting my step sons for 3 years. The youngest has hardly had a relationship with his bio mom. She is an alcoholic & was passed out for most of his life after he turned 1. I struggle with the fact that I love these boys & do all the dirty work, including homework & discipline, but I'm still never more than a glorified nanny. They love me & it's a good relationship. It's just hard not to be hurt at times. I taught my step son to ride a bike & tie his shoes. His mother has shown up a handful of times, though she is always very sweet with her words & probably doing her best considering how bad her addiction is. I realize it's normal for the boys to feel like they do, it's just painful at times. The youngest said something to me, innocently, about me not being his real family. It stung...a lot. Anyone else dealing with this? Any advice?