Jill - posted on 02/24/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )
I have a mixed child, Caucasian and African American. She's 11 and her hair was gorgeous!!!! All of her friends cut their hair into bobs and Jayden wanted to. I said no, your hair is different and you won't like it. (I know that she doesn't like big hair on her.) She gave me the blues for months! My entire family was saying, just let her cut her hair. I said no, she won't like it. She kept asking and making such a fuss, I gave in. Well, she's now miserable just as my gut told me. I did have a conversation with the hair dresser prior to the appt w/out Jayden knowing, and told her not to cut too much and to not blow dry it so it will appear shorter. And I told Jayden, if you cut it short you'll have to wear it natural. Anyway, it's a journey that we have now descended on. I still don't know if I did the right thing by giving in. I'd probably say no. It didn't feel right and now I have to see her miserable. We keep telling her it's cute but she's not happy and that makes me sad. I could have been more firm and said wait until next year and see if you still want to. Or maybe I made the right choice. Time will tell.