when did i concieve?

Angellica - posted on 12/22/2009 ( 34 moms have responded )

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so im having some issues with my husband and he now wants a paternity test..
jan 09 i had my period in the beginning of the month then had spotting at the end of the month and then in the beginning of feb i had my period..during this time i was also experinceing realy bad pelvic pains so feb 10th i went to the doc to get a test and it came out neg. so then later went march 9th 09 and they told me i was pregnant. i then went to my 1st obgyn visit march 17th and was told i was 6 weeks and 3 days and my baby was due nov 7th..well i ended up having a c-section on nov 2nd 09 cuz he was 10lbs 10oz..so im trying to figure out when he was conceived..help!!!!

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Rosie - posted on 12/30/2009

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Quoting Laura:

OK...This whole.."two week" thing is starting to tick me off...They add two weeks FROM THE DATE OF YOUR LAST PERIOD...to adjust for the difference between your last period till your conception date.

The date they tell you you conceived is pretty FREAKING close !


while what you say is true, what i think most of us are saying is that when they say you are 6 weeks pregnant you've only been actually pregnant for 4 weeks. pregnancy is only 38 weeks, 40 weeks from the first day of your last period. hence you are not really pregnant for the first two weeks of your pregnancy. drs tell u the gestational age (age from your last period) , and not the conceptional age (date you conceived 14 days from first day of your last period) cause it's easier to go by the date of your last period.

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Crystal - posted on 11/25/2012

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My period came down on November14,2012 and I just found out I was pegent so wen did I get pregent

Crystal - posted on 11/25/2012

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My period came down on November14,2012 and I just found out I was pegent so wen did I get pregent

Tah - posted on 02/01/2010

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@Rebecca, thats ridicuolous..just shows the difference in states, my husband found out out when the little guy was 3 that it wasn't his and the judge had the paperwork sent out herself to have his name taken off the birth certificate...he needs a lawyer, matlock or somebody off law and order...that's bad..

Tah - posted on 02/01/2010

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it seems to be more to this story, if nobody else was in the equation, why does it matter, go get the test and tape the results to his foerhead..also, there is a extra 2 weeks included, i don't have my little wheel available but it actually makes pregnancy longer than the actual 9 months that some people think....good luck with that...

Claudia - posted on 01/31/2010

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Sounds like the real issue here is trust. Who cares when exactly you conceived.
Either you have given your husband reason to doubt you, or he has serious insecurity
problems in which case he needs help before he makes your life miserable. If you have been faithful and he is demanding a paternity test I wouldn't waste any time getting him some good pastoral counseling.

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BTW, My sons Father has many issues and took them out on me including his insecurity issues, There is no way I would ever cheat, yet he wanted me to take a paternity test and I found this to be very insulting and sad for his son, I told him over and over there was no chance of it being anyones but his and he wouldnt take my word at all, I was against the test being done, because I though it was soo slack on his son, but in the end I agreed just to prove myself to him and make it quite clear to him that its all in his head! Test came out possitive and my grin was from ear to ear even though I knew the truth!

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If there is any chance that your Husband may not be the Father allow him to have to have the test done for everyones sake. If you had only slept with your Husband during jan, feb and march there is no chance for anyone else to be the Father therefor a test is not nessary regardless. Your conception date will only ever be an estimate and aproximate.

Rebecca - posted on 01/02/2010

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Feb 12-15 you would have concieved. It's 12-14 days after the first day of your last period. If however you baby was that large i would think you concieved 4 weeks before making you concieved in jan and your due date wrong.

If there is no reason to not do the test do it. If you did cheat he still has the right to know it is not his child. He will be forever responsible for child support if his name is on that certificate and ti is not fair to him. In another province by me a man found out when his "daughter" was 4yrs old she was not his but the government could not release his name from the certificate as the child was over one and they believe a parent is not biologic but a constant figure in the childs life. He now has to pay support for a child that is not his.

Emmalene - posted on 12/31/2009

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There is a trust issue underlying here and if you havent done anything wrong I understand you not wanting to do the test as you feel like you loyalty is being questioned, which is never nice.

But if you have done the wrong thing and dont do the test or own up to it, if he is that strong about it, it is sure to end up in a court situation.



I would do the test but if my loyalty was questioned by my husband I would tell him exactly how this is affecting me and for me question our future as I couldnt stay with someone who doesnt trust me when I'm a loyal partner n wife.



Good luck

Ilona - posted on 12/31/2009

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i would stop counting back and wondering and just do the darn test and then throw it in his face, erm if you are sure of course that is he is the daddy, then for the rest of ur life you will have 'upper hand' at him :P u know reminding him, as im pretty sure if he wants the test done, there is no amount of calculation or evidence from anyone will put his mind at rest!

Gina - posted on 12/30/2009

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If you weren't cheating, then when you conceived isn't the issue. Let your husband have the paternity test and shut him up. If you were cheating and the child isn't his, then you have to go after the other man for child support. That's what I would do if it was me.

Charde - posted on 12/25/2009

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I'd have to agree with those that said that you conceived within the first two weeks of February. My son was born on November 4th, but my due date was November 10th. And I conceived the 2nd week of February.

Your son is a blessing and if your husband has a hard time accepting hes yours then thats his problem. And in the end its your decision whether or not you want to consent to a dna test.

User - posted on 12/25/2009

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Quoting Laura:

OK...This whole.."two week" thing is starting to tick me off...They add two weeks FROM THE DATE OF YOUR LAST PERIOD...to adjust for the difference between your last period till your conception date.

The date they tell you you conceived is pretty FREAKING close


if you have a normal period and ovulate normally it's fairly accurate... if you dont *ie i ovulate late in my cycle and my periods come when they want LOL* so my dates are better to come from ultrasound than the little wheel

Isobel - posted on 12/24/2009

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OK...This whole.."two week" thing is starting to tick me off...They add two weeks FROM THE DATE OF YOUR LAST PERIOD...to adjust for the difference between your last period till your conception date.

The date they tell you you conceived is pretty FREAKING close

Maria - posted on 12/24/2009

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It's one of the many reasons why I love this site because there is so much information that mothers can share or help each other with issues. Everything that was said is true that with conception dates each woman is different. For me I didn't know I was pregnant until I was almost three months because I had a regular period the first and second month. I hope your husband is reassured and still not asking for a paternity test. Hopefully getting an education in women reproductive will ease his mind.

Danielle - posted on 12/24/2009

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Because of how men are i would just do the test because he is always going to wonder if its his or not thats how guys are everytime you son does something or a face he make he going to think that its not his so just do the test so you wont have problems down the road... my dad and one of my sisters don't talk to each other because my dad thinks my mom cheated on him and that she isn't his shes 31 now and has problems with it all the time my dad always treated her differently

User - posted on 12/24/2009

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unless you were sleeping around why does it matter? sounds like he has a reason to request a paternity test

Tambudzai - posted on 12/24/2009

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hi congrats first of al don't worry about wen u concieve if u kno that ur husband is the only man u slept with. wy am i saying this, it happened to me we started trying in oct and i had my periods end of oct. nov came to end there was no periods i was only having periods pains no blood did a preg test it was neg, dec no periods did preg test it was neg, then in jan i went to c my gp and he suggested that i hav 2 do another test but my instincts were telling me that i was preg my first scan was booked for march we were surprised to hear that i was 19wks gone the calculations they did they added 2wks and i told them that i was expecting my baby to b born in aug. the sonographer told me the baby was due in july. and guess who was correct me my baby arrived second wk of aug. so if ur hubby insist u juss hav 2 do the test to prove him wrong. good luck

Stephanie - posted on 12/24/2009

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It sounds like jan would be your conception month! if you were 6 wks in march already that's a month and a half plus three days probably during the first or second week of january. Also some preg test come back negative the first time around so it doesnt mean you were not. I do wish you luck in your situation and will say a prayer for you and your family.

Jennifer - posted on 12/23/2009

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Well if you know that you didn't have sex with anyone else I wouldn't worry about it. I hear eating crow does not taste good or any fun.

Kevlyn - posted on 12/23/2009

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There is no way to tell the exact date that you conceived... I would just tell him you agree to the test but he is paying for it and then you can laugh in his face when it comes back...good luck :)

Rosie - posted on 12/23/2009

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they always add two weeks on to your actual conception date ( or what they think is your conception date, since it's not an exact science). so you were told 6 weeks 3 days, but it was actually, 4 weeks 3 days since the day you conceived. i'm not too sure why they add the 2 weeks. it is really confusing, especially since no one at the doctor bothered to tell me that with my first pregnancy.

Medic - posted on 12/23/2009

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probably the first two-three weeks of feb probably....just take the test and he can feel dumb like the other ladies said

Isobel - posted on 12/23/2009

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6 weeks and 3 days before march 17th is actually the beginning of Feb...not the middle

good luck...get the test and throw it in his face (I'm with Jodi)

Connie - posted on 12/23/2009

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i always concieved within the first couple of days after my period ended. but, my little sister had a period after she concieved, according to the dr it was not that uncommon. but most likely the only way to appease your husband will be to just give him the test and let him feel like an ass later lol

Hdlb123 - posted on 12/23/2009

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I'd go with the dates the docs gave you.Sometime in Feb, you conceived. You'll never know the exact day that you conceived, just the week long time period. I had a baby due just after yours, my last period was in Feb, we found out we were pregnant in March, but much later in the month (the 21st)

I would just do the paternity test too, unless you have worries that it isnt his child, in which case he has a right to know anyway and you should still do the test.

Jodi - posted on 12/23/2009

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Why won't you just agree to the paternity test? I mean, I'll admit if my husband asked me to do one, I wouldn't be counting back the dates, I'd do the damn test and throw it in his face to be honest! Unless there is a reason the test needed to be done.........

Sarah - posted on 12/23/2009

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Hi, I would say that you conceived in the January and then the egg didn't attach itself to your uterus which is why you had the spotting and then your period at the beginning of February. {this happened to me when planning my first child} Then the following ovulation you conceived again and this time it attached itself which is why on the 9th of March you got a positive from the Doctor. When visiting you gyn on the 17th March you would literally be 4 weeks and 3 days but because they count from you last period you would be 6 weeks and 3 days, Your conception would be around 14th February and 38 weeks from that date leaves you at the 7th Novenmber, the 40 weeks of pregnancy is taken form the last date of your preiod. All this information I found out when planning my first child and reading through the book Pregnancy and childbirth by Dr Miriam Stoppard. The act that you have a boy also shows you conceived right on your ovulation as you only get a girl 3 or 4 days before you ovulate. The male is conceived the day before when your LH surge is at it's highest, the day of ovulation or the day after, I hope this information helps, the gyn dates are correct and so are your doctors tests. Everyone thought I was going to have a really small baby coz I'm not that big myself, but my first was born 8lbs and was an emergency c-section because he turned out to be breech when I was already in Labour. Enjoy you son, if he's anything like my two, you'll have your hands full before you know it.

Evette - posted on 12/22/2009

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Well, congratulations on your baby; As you may know, you can spot and/or still have a period when you are pregnant; most people don't, but since women generally only ovulate 1 a month, within a 2-5 day span give or take, the gyn uses the complete menstrual cycle, not just the 2-5 days when you could have become pregnant. So, basically, a gyn will estimate a 2 wk time period for your cycle; that's why almost always, there is an additional 2 weeks added to your pregnancy... Tell your husband to stop worrying; the gyn is always off at least 2 weeks and unless you guys are practicing Roman Catholics performing the natural/rhythm method/natural conception, then, you will almost always be somewhat off about when you actually conceived, usually 2 weeks to a month. Also, tell your husband to focus on the life, the healthy baby, & his healthy wife. In another discussion, I would tell him that morally, biology/semen/eggs, are not the ultimate importance, but the fact that you two are married & are blessed with the gift of caring for another human being. But, that's another discussion based on Judeo-Christian principles...Take care, Merry Christmas & sorry if I was too simplistic...I just wanted to hit the important parts.

Mel - posted on 12/22/2009

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your conception date is approximately feb 14th if thier due date was correct. Your baby was conceived 11-14 days after your last period

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