When did you first leave your baby?

Merry - posted on 07/11/2011 ( 17 moms have responded )

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When did you first leave your baby with another person other then the dad?
When did you first leave them overnight?


My son was 11 months when we first left him with grandma and grandpa and we saw a movie, so about 3 hrs with them.
We haven't left him overnight yet, he's 2.

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Yeah, my girls (9.5) LOVE overnighters. They've only done 3 overnighters w/out family though. The first one was when they stayed w/ my best friend while I was in the hospital w/ their brother (they were 6) and the last 2 were school and church related camps since they turned 9. ;)



It was REALLY hard for me to let them go on the camps, but it's time for me to let go a little for their sakes. :)

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Leigh - posted on 11/11/2012

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When all risks, ie cotdeath were no longer, by asking a Dr. I didnt want another person to be in that position should it have occurred. I had a health nurse visit every few days to check over my baby, it was winter and i had an oil heater on 24 hours. The whole house was smoke free. My baby fell asleep by me, than putting them into a cot, while I was awake. Nappies, feeding and reasons for crying were immediately taken care of. I am on family videos for being extremely protective and staring at people with baby. And able to say no if need be.

Stifler's - posted on 07/17/2011

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I can't remember maybe 8 months at Michelles and then a week with my parents and then a few nights at my MILs. CANNOT WAIT until Renae is old enough and they can both sleep at my parents/MILs and we can have a whole night'ss sleep. They seem to be yo yo crying the last few nights.

Merry - posted on 07/17/2011

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Amy, if he wants to do overnights at grandma and grandpas I'd most likely suggest we all go stay for a night :)
I can't say we for sure would never allow it alone.....but I can't imagine it happening yet.
My first sleepover was when I was about 13 and I never felt left out, but then again I was homeschooled so I wants exposed to all the sleepovers.

Kathryn - posted on 07/17/2011

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The first time our oldest son was with someone else was his grandparents when he was a year old. I had a miscarriage, and they kept him over night. You'll know when it is right for you and him; trust your instinct.

Amy - posted on 07/17/2011

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Laura just out of curiosity what if Eric asks to sleep over somewhere before highschool? My son prefers to be at his grandparents house because there is so much for him to do, like I said in my earlier post my daughter doesn't go for extended periods yet but when she starts asking I'll let her go too.

Merry - posted on 07/17/2011

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Part of the reason I had Fierna born at home is because didn't want Eric sleeping a night without us. :)

Merry - posted on 07/17/2011

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Eric was 11 months the first time we left him for 3 hours to see a movie.
We don't plan on leaving him for a sleepover until high school.
Fierna is 2 months and we won't leave her at all until around a year or so.
You're not crazy, in my opinion babies should be with mom as much as possible.

Hailey - posted on 07/16/2011

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My little girl (5 soon) and boy (3) will be having their first sleep over at nannies in a couple of weeks. She lives an hour away, but they are ready. My mom stayed at mine a few years ago and watched my little girl whilst i was in hospital having my little boy, she was only 17 months and it was the hardest thing i had ever done! Torture. And again a five weeks ago whilst i was in hospital having my second little boy, they were fine and so was i this time lol. Im having a hard time with my health visitor at the moment as she is trying to convince me i have a problem leaving my children with people, including my five week old! I dont want to, nor do i HAVE to do i???!! Did i mention i dont have detatchable breasts?



How about you laura?

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My now 3 yar-old spent a few hours with my parents (and without me or hubby) when she was just 2 weeks old, but it was completely unavoidable. The first time I chose to leave her with someone other than my hubby was when she was 3 months old (my parents were always asking for a few hours here and there and we only lived about 5 minutes away from them for our daughter's first 9 months). Our daughter's first sleepover was when she was 4 months old (everyone else in the family had a horrible flu and we didn't want her to get sick too so she stayed 2 days and 2 nights with my parents). After that she spent a night with my parnets at least once a month.

With y 2 year-old, I left herwith my MIL for a couple hours wen she was 3 weeks old because I NEEDED a shower and a nap because she was a fussy baby and wouldn't let me out of her sight without screaming for her first 2 months. Her first overnight was with my MIL at around 3 months because hubby and I needed a date night (our marriage wasn't doing so well at that point, but we learned how to communicate and we're gret now!). All our kids used to have regular sleepovers and visits with my MIL until recently (MIL got a job and no longer has time). Sometimes my parents drive down (we live a little over 200 miles away from them) to take the kids for a weekend visit though. The last one was in April and the kids haven't had any sleepovers since... I'm thinking it's about time for a mommy-daddy night! lol

Billie Jo - posted on 07/11/2011

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My first, 18 months with grandma and grandpa. The second is 8 months old and haven't left her yet.

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My girls were 2 months old when my (now) ex and I went out to dinner for Valentine's Day. We pretty much only left them w/out one or the other of us... I think 3 times in the first year. I forget when they started doing overnighters w/ Granpa.... probably 3ish.

My son was left w/ my friend (while he was sleeping) as a newborn a couple of times while I picked up his sisters from school. First time he was REALLY away from me though would've been when he started visitations w/ his father at 17 months. His first overnighter was the last week of this past December.... also w/ his father. He turned 3 at the end of March. I can count him being w/ his father as way different from being w/ me cuz he only sees the man a couple of times/year. Other than that.... He's only ever been left w/ my mom, dad, or best friend.. unless he's also w/ his 2 big 'comfort objects' (aka his big sisters).

Medic - posted on 07/11/2011

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My son was 2 months when he started going for over nights with my parents and my daughter was about 4 or 5 months. When my son was 2.5years he came back to Texas for 6 weeks with my parents and we had to stay back home in Arkansas to work. Right now my now 4.5 year old son has had his one week stays with each of my parents and my 17month old is currently on her one week with my mom. They also spend most Friday and Saturday nights with my parents due to our work schedules.

Anna - posted on 07/11/2011

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When my son was 6 months old my husband went on deployment and my son and I moved in with my parents. I would often leave him with them for an hour or 2, but not ever with other people, unless it was night and he was asleep. When my husband came back we spent a night at a B&B (son was 13 months). He hardly knew I was gone. He woke up once in the night, as was usual, but my mom said she just took him downstairs and played with him for an hour til he feel back to sleep, which he must have known was different but he did fine. We left my daughter several times when she was a young baby for an hour or 2 but then she got harder to leave so we stopped for a while. We just left her overnight for the first time last week and she's 15months. I breastfeed, so that makes it more difficult, but mostly I've noticed my kids handle the separation a lot better then I expect, especially when I leave them with grandparents who are so much fun.

Jenn - posted on 07/11/2011

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My children have never stayed somewhere overnight without me or their dad. There hasn't been a need for them to. I left my oldest with my mom for a couple of hours when she was 2 months and probably the same for my youngest..I breastfed exclusively and avoided giving a bottle unless absolutely necessary. I don't when my now 4 and just turned 7 yr olds will sleep overnight from us..maybe when my oldest asks to go to a sleepover ;)

Amy - posted on 07/11/2011

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I forget with my son, probably at 2 months when I returned to work. Overnight was probably at 4 months with his grammie again because of work.
With my daughter I returned to work at 5 months and had to travel for work at 7 months with her father and grammie for 4 days. Otherwise she has done overnights at her grammies at 9 months but only a couple of times. My son now goes out of state for about a week or so every month in the summer to my parents house but won't let the 15 month old go. My son is 5 I don't know if I put that in and can't go back because Im on my phone lol.

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My mother stayed with us for a month when my son was 2mo. We left him with her twice for 1-2 hours each time, so my husband could take me to see two of my doctors for check-ups.

That's it. He's now 10mo.

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