When do I stop helping?

Bonnie - posted on 01/05/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




I have a 5 1/2 year old daughter who isn't wiping as well as she should when she has a BM. I know she knows how, but I think she's "rushing" to be done. She is getting bumps on her butt that itch, and they hurt when I clean her in the shower...any tips on getting her to figure it out and get a "handle" on it herself?


Laura - posted on 01/05/2011




That's not uncommon for young kids to still need guidance with hygiene skills. The bumps are most likely "diaper rash" and can be treated with the same ointment. Let your daughter know that not wiping well and the sore bottom are connected, explaining that the sore bottom is what happens when the wiping "job" is rushed and not completed well. Then let her know that you will be checking on her "job" so tht you can put some cream on the rash (which can only go on a clean bottom). Treating the rash will provide her with some relief yet give you an opportunity to check on her skills without making too big of a deal out of it. All of this is without physically wiping for her--she does the work, you are supervising and teaching. Do this until the rash clears then see how she does on her own. Hope this helps!

Julie - posted on 01/05/2011




have you tried wet wipes instead of loo roll. there are the nice design ones out in the shops specialy designed at children then stand in the loo with her and make sure she does it right a cfew times before leaving her again. dont help just supervise and explain why it is important. she will get it herself one day


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Theresa - posted on 01/05/2011




I agree, try the flushable wipes. My son had a really hard time getting completly clean. He had issues until he was about 10. Now he finally does a good job without having to use the flushable wipes every time. I just taught him to wipe as much as he could with the TP, then use a flushable until it came out clean.

Tabby - posted on 01/05/2011




A friend bought the flushable wipes for her kids. They also had trouble cleaning themselves well enough. She said they worked wonders since they are thicker than toilet paper. I plan on using them with my daughter when she gets to the potty-training age.

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