Rhonda - posted on 06/12/2015 ( 10 moms have responded )
Hi All, just looking for some advice.
My partner and I met almost a yr ago, he cheated on his partner with me... it wasn't something I thought I could ever get caught up in. He moved out of the family home last oct and offically moved in with me in dec. He has 2 young boys 7 and 9... I've met the boys and all was well... they even started to stay over some weekends and school nites. Since he left the family home she has insisted that his entire pay stays in a joint account where she hands out and allowance to him, he and I can't even go to a movie without me having to pay cause he has no money, she constantly takes the boys on week holidays and weekends away and a bali holiday for herself. The eldest boy is having a hard time without his father but she now insists any time the biys soend with their father are over at the family home, his youngest had a birthday last weekend and the father attended the party, she then took them away camping and now he is over their having dinner with them all, he says the youngest asked, but I think she's behind it....just another way to have him spend more time there. I feel it's not acceptable and just confusing the boys more...she's constantly texting him with non urgent rubbish to keep the contact. Surely there has to be boundries?? He will always respond out of guilt and not wanting to hurt her. His guilt is what she plays on and I've done everything I can to accommodate and welcome his boys to my family and home, I also have children and want nothing more for them all to be happy.
When is enough enough???