When is a good time to have another baby?

Jackie - posted on 08/30/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Dear Moms, Our girl is now 2 years old and I am asking the question - when is the right time to try for another (and our last) one? Is 2 -3 years a good age for my girl to accept another baby in the house, and how will that effect my time and duties? I truly have no idea when would be the best time.



We are obviously worried about finances, but i hear that there will never be enough money for another baby until that baby arrives. :)



Any advise? Is it wise to have another one?

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Whittney - posted on 08/31/2012

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My midwife told us 20-22 months apart is a perfect time because then the older one never really remembers a time without the other. My first 2 are about 20 months apart and they don't stray from each other very often. :)

Jackie - posted on 08/31/2012

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Thank you sooo much for your advice. I will definitely put it to use. :)

We are making the big decision this weekend :)



Have a great day.



Regards

Michelle - posted on 08/30/2012

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My first 2 are best friends. They have always played really well together. They are now 11 and 8.5.



The age gap between the boys and my daughter is noticeable as she's only 2.5 and the boys don't really want to play with her that much. They would prefer to be on the computer :-)



When we get them away from the electronics all 3 play with the train set or build with Isobel's blocks etc so it's not all bad. The oldest one gets her up on the weekends and makes her breakfast if we aren't up yet so that's the bonus with a big age gap.



When I was pregnant with my 2nd we made sure that we included the eldest in the pregnancy as well. We found out what we were having and named him early. Tyler would kiss my belly and say goodnight to Alex every night before he went to bed. He was so excited when he had a little brother that he kept asking when he would be old enough to play.

Jackie - posted on 08/30/2012

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Thank you Michelle



Finances is always a question as I would obviously like to provide for my children's every need and be able to give them everything they need to become the best adults they could possibly be.

But I know that planning for a baby is not really ever possible when it comes to that. You never really know what you are going to need till you need it. :)



Did your first 2 children enjoy playing with each other? was the gap not to big? at what point will you say that the gap is too big for them to really be good play mates?

Michelle - posted on 08/30/2012

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I had my first 2 2.5 years apart and then there is a 6 year gap between 2 & 3.



My oldest didn't have a problem when his brother arrived at all, he wanted to help me with everything. The 2 oldest ones are also great with their sister.



As long as you feel you can afford it then go for it. You will adjust to having 2 and spreading your time between them.

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