When is enough

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I have four kids. I raised them pretty much alone because their father was never around. Three years ago I left and we got divorced. I met someone a year later and got remarried. I had a hard time dealing with everything after being married for 15 years to the kids dad so I started smoking weed. Then my 14 year old daughter got curious and asked me to smoke it. I told her no for a while but I knew deep down she would do one way or another. So I let her do it under my supervision. Then my new husband let my 12 year old son do it too. I wasn't happy about it but so many kids do it now at such a young age. I thought they were safer. I started working and tried to put a stop to all of it. Next thing I know I get served with order of protection in March of 2015. I know some may see what I did was wrong but I felt like I was doing what I could to keep my kids safe cause marihuana isn't what it used to be years ago. Their dad still has all my kids. I got supervised visitations for a bit off and on but haven't seen them in 4 months right now and I don't know if I can take anymore.


♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/30/2016




You are actually trying to defend your choice to introduce marijuana at EXTREMELY inappropriate ages?

Get a fucking grip. I have no problem with ADULTS over the age of 21 consuming, but you showed absolutely zero intelligence in your choice. Hopefully, the kids have been able to recover and move forward.

As far as your access, or lack of: you're going to have to accept supervision when you wish to visit your kids, due to the inappropriate choices you made. Why have you not seen them in months? Have your visits been restricted even more?

Jodi - posted on 07/30/2016




Are you fucking seriously trying to justify allowing your children to smoke marijuana at the ages of 14 and 12? Do you have ANY idea what it does to young brains? Any clue at all? You have absolutely no right to be parenting those children, and I am really glad that child protection stepped in before you fucked them up totally. You can't take any more? Lady, you have quite a nerve. You are now choosing not to see your kids because YOU can't take any more? YOU created this situation. YOU need to stop justifying your actions and recognise that you truly did place your children in a harmful situation and take responsibility for that. If you ever want your children back in your care unsupervised, you at least need to demonstrate that you understand the harm you caused and stop trying to justify what you did.

How about start by doing some research on what you were potentially doing to your children. And yes, I AM saying these things to make you feel bad, because you have absolutely no right to be justifying what you did and you SHOULD feel bad about it.


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Ev - posted on 07/30/2016




I can not believe that you would allow your kids to have weed at their ages. What were you thinking beyond the reasons you gave here? You were clearly not thinking.

Michelle - posted on 07/30/2016




I agree with the others.
YOU chose to break the law and then give an illegal substance to your children! How can you not see what you did was wrong?
You are now paying the price for breaking the law and endangering your children.
You need to make sure you are clean and do everything the department asks of you but I doubt you will get custody back of your children.

Dove - posted on 07/30/2016




Well... you probably shouldn't have allowed your children to consume an illegal substance under your supervision and w/ your permission then.... Even in states where it is legal to smoke... it is still illegal for children. Saying that they might do it anyway is a cop out and lame excuse. I am sorry that you lost your children, but you only have your inappropriate parenting to blame.

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