Tea - posted on 12/27/2014 ( 14 moms have responded )
My story is long but I'll do my best to cut to the chase. I met my husband 14 years ago, we were both married but fell in love. Our ex's found us out & the divorces started. My husband & I got married this year. Over the last 13 years his ex has had this "entitlement" issue with him & has always played the guilt card with him (it always works!). She's been in a few relationships but nothing serious enough for her to move on. Well, the straw on my back broke this Christmas! She sent home new underwear with his kids as part of her Christmas gift "from his kids" and she got custom T-shirts made for her & his kids with the family last name! Holy crap! Is it me? I had a conversation with his kids about Christmas gifts for daddy this year and even said "we" were getting him underwear, socks & under shirts along with his other gifts. His youngest told me she told her mother that "we" bought this already & was told "so what" they were going to get them too! Well, I told my husband about this before the gift came home. Told him how inappropriate this was on her part & he agreed & said he would have a conversation with her. It still hasn't happened! And after seeing the custom T-shirts she had made I lost it! When does it stop? I've worked very hard all these years trying to get past being the other woman but I feel like it's something she will never get over. The kids have a great relationship with me but it's always a problem for her. She goes above & beyond to make sure she spoils them & that I'm always the bad guy. My husband & I are barely talking now because he thinks it's not a big deal & her & I are just jealous of each other. I'm so tired of this always being an issue but I feel that I'm his wife now & there has to be boundaries. Deep down I don't believe he will talk to her because he's afraid she will get her kids involved in her drama. I would love to her a different perspective on this...