When is it time to let go of your marriage?

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When is it time to let go of your marriage? When he tells you he hates you and doesn't want to be with you at least 2-3 times a month during arguments. Or when he causes you mental, emotional, and physical harm? I think I am staying because I know the man he used to be, and also two small kids. I also don't believe in divorce, so how do I go on with a man that is continuing to break me down and seems like he hates me? I'm so sad and hurt by him that I really don't know why we got together in the first place. Any suggestions moms?

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Katrina - posted on 10/16/2012

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Watch it!! It's amazing and it is about marriage. All things are possible in Chirst! But it's not you that has to change him that's him and God and if he is abusive in more than one way do what's best for your children in the long run.

Katrina - posted on 10/16/2012

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That's rough I'm sorry.

Are you wanting to fight for your marriage??

Even though he is adusive??

I understand fighting for your marriage I'm like you and marriage is for life but also like these other ladies have a good point on if he is adusive to you now.....

Jessi - posted on 10/16/2012

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I know, I'v had a friend and a cousin in your exact situation. I told them the same thing. It may seem impossible, try a few days at a friends house, or a family members. Think of your kids, and take it one day at a time. Maybe (hopefully) he'll see where he went wrong and work on changing. If not at least you'll have some support to help you through it.

Jessi - posted on 10/16/2012

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You may not believe in divorse, but if he is abusive to you, think of what he may do to your kids. If my husband started saying and doing abusive things to me, I'd take my sons and leave just to keep them safe even though I myself would believe he would change into his old self again.

September - posted on 10/16/2012

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Given that he is abusive to you, I'd say now is a good time to let go. It sounds like you'd be better off without him.

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