When people dislike your baby

Stephanie - posted on 06/17/2014 ( 14 moms have responded )

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Hello ladies, well I'm a new mommy, baby girl will be 4months. And just recently I took my baby over for us to spend time with her dad for Father's Day, and since I hardly ever go over I told him to show our baby to his grandma since I never really go over, so he showed her to his grandma and then she decides to show her to one of his aunts. So she takes her on the bed with her, and at first everything seemed ok, but I felt really unwanted since she didn't wven say hi to me and my gut feeling was that I didn't even really want my baby to be with her. So I just step out Infront of the door waiting for my boyfriend to get out the restroom and I hear her cry a little, she stopped but a few seconds started crying and crying as if they did something to her! And so I walk in and his aunt wasn't even trying to calm her down she was just holding her till I took her from her and when I got her she was like smiling. I was so furious! My boyfriend walks in and says "what happened why is she crying" and then his aunt says "she just started to cry cause we layed her down" (it was her and her daughter) and in my head I said to myself "fuc*in lying ass B*itch cause she NEVER cries the way she did just cause "you layed her down" ugh I was soo angry!!!!! She Sometimes cried but just soon as she feels me next to her she automatically STOPS crying! And that day I picked her up and tried to calm her down but she was still crying. So of course I'm going to think they had to have done something for her to cry because she NEVER cries just cause she was layed down. NEVER has she cried with ANY of my family members. Even my 3yr old neice spends time with her and she has NEVER cried the way she did. So I seriously DON'T EVER want his aunt to carry her ever again. Who knows maybe I'm wrong but I know my daughter and she wouldnt be crying like that just cause someoone lays her down or just for no reason and especially since she wasn't even trying to calm her down and was just smiling once I took her from her. Ughh just wanted to say this since I still can't seem to get over it! And I would like to go over his house just incase his aunt try's to carry her I can let her know that I don't want her carrying my baby.! Yea it sounds like drama but what would you mothers do in that situation!?!?

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Stephanie - posted on 06/21/2014

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Hello Dakota(:
Wow that is very interesting!! I can't believe he tossed your daughter just cause of what you said.! You're the Mother and I think Any person Should and Have to Respect Your decision on what You choose to do with Your Daughter (unless its abuse but I doubt you would ever do that). That's sad about your mom I wouldn't speak to my mom neither if I was in the same situation, or to anyone in general who would intentionally harm my baby. And I bet if your husband was there while that happened he would've gone crazy and gone off on him (I'm thinking) I know my boyfriend would! And even though when your mom was singing to your baby to try to calm her down at least she TRYED (Speaking In My Situation) because his aunt did NOTHING to at least TRY to calm her, No all she did was Hold her till I took her from her and sort of giggled/smiled as I walked to her and took her from her. Like wtf else am I suppose to think?!?! The lady has two kids of her own and it's only common sense on how to at least try to calm a baby down but that lady did no such thing. Just because I didn't see her actually harm her doesn't mean she didn't, to Me just the fact she didn't try to calm her down and how she sort of giggled and smiled once I took her from her says enough for me to think the way I did. I hate how these people are saying I'm over reacting and it's normal for a baby to cry, yes it's normal, but it's also normal to try to calm a baby down when they're crying. Well CONGRATS on your baby boy(: hope everything goes well for you when you're in labor(: baby's are such a blessing! Congrats to you and your husband(:

Dakota - posted on 06/21/2014

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That's what happen to my baby, but a tad different my mom was dying to see Amanda (Mandy was only 5 months old) and my mom Letty was holding her and Letty gave baby Mandy to her boyfriend Joshie I hate Joshie and I always have an I just stood there telling myself "Give me back my baby you b*astard! But I was waiting for my husband James to get done in the woods did I mention the woods was 17 miles out! So I was alone with my mom and Joshie and just stood there like a b*tch and said to my mom loud and clearly "I DONT WANT YOUR DAMN BOYFRIEND JOSHIE TO HOLD AMANDA SHE IS 5 MONTHS OLD AND U DONT HAVE THE RIGHT TOO"! My mother was in shock and Joshie just said "shame on u"! As soon as Joshie put my baby down on the bed she was bawling and bawling she was TOSSED on the bed TOSSED NOT PLACED GENTLY TOSSED I called James and he was cussing Joshie out I was yelling at my my mother Letty I soda last thing to my mom: "Letica Onders I cannot believe u"! I found out Amanda hit a wooden rocking chair on the way to the bed by Joshie and I seen a bruise I called my mother! And said "f*ck you son of a b*tch you care more about damn Joshie more than your own granddaughter I called my oldest son Preston he was FURIOUS I haven't talked my mother since the day this shit happen I am still noticing Mandy is mad at my mom because my mom invited Mandy to have have supper at Golden Corral for a treat! Nope she invited Joshie and his side if the family to go Mandy said: "mom I'm sorry,But if Joshie is gonna be there I can't after what he did to me at 5 months old I cannot take his crap". I said "baby you don't have to I honestly hate Joshies act anyway but whatcha ya gonna do my mom loves him and I guess I'm not gonna cause there love to split up"! She told me that when I 1st meant Joshie she is still with that moron today my moms 77 and Joshie is 79! I am 27 and Mandy is 13! I cannot believe Manda was tossed I about took Joshie and whacked his happy ass upside the walls! I mean excuse my language... As I was saying my mom was just singing Mary had a little lamb to Mandy that did NOT HELP!!!!!what-so-ever! Mandy mand still can't be touched where she hit the rocking chair today it gives her the jitters! My sister Dayna was furious! I'm a triplet my sisters are Dayna,Bree,and me Dakota I have 3 older brothers 1 younger the first oldest ones name is Taylor the second oldest is Jake the third oldest is...Cody I have one younger bro his name is Zach and a young sis named kody-Bella she Just gave birth to a girl named Maria! I'm gonna have a child named Jason he is gonna be born on July 3rd 2014 I ❤️ The mom circle it soothes me it lets me express me feelings!


~Dakota Lesson

Ev - posted on 06/20/2014

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I have to also agree with Shawnn and Sarah on this. I have two grandkids. Girl and boy. They boy is the baby and I took him and his sis for the afternoon to visit the great grand parents and great auntie. Now the girl is over 2 years old and she was fine and relaxed. But my grandson is only 3 months old and not away from mom or dad that much so when I had him with sis, he did well but after about four hours with his extended family, he cried. Great Granny and I tried to calm him. We did not do. So in an effort to calm him, I gave him to my son who is 17. In less than two minutes my grandson quit crying. Even after we got him home to mom, it took uncle to calm him down. So...it goes to show that even then babies who do not even know someone can be relaxed and calmed by another person.

Erin - posted on 06/20/2014

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I agree with Shawnn and Sarah. I have 3 babies, my youngest 3 months and he cries around new people who try to calm him. I am not saying you're overreacting because I thought the same at first,but I doubt they would've hurt her.

Stephanie - posted on 06/18/2014

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Actually I don't freak out about everything, I can just tell something was wrong.
It doesn't "drive me psychotic" when she's with someone else.

Well I don't think I know it all but if that's what you think then Thanks(:

it's funny how you're saying idk what I'm talking about and to not tell you how much I think you did or didn't care about your kids, but yet you're trying to tell me about the reasons my baby cries, and what I should or shouldn't do. not every baby is the same.
Nor do they all cry for the same reason. But since you seem to think I know everything then I guess I'm right(;

Thanks good luck to you too.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/18/2014

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That's my point, Stephanie...Been there, done that and have the tshirt twice.

You freaking out about every little thing that the child does that is 'out of the ordinary' when she's with someone else is going to drive you psychotic.

But, again, you already appear to know it all, so more power to ya! BTW, my kids are raised and gone, so don't tell me how much I did or didn't care about them. I speak from 2 decades of experience, but if you don't think I know what I'm talking about, that's your opinion, and you have every right to it.

Good luck

Stephanie - posted on 06/18/2014

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Shawnn, was I the one who said that or was it YOU? Lol idk how I'm being "psychotic" if I'm just trying to protect my baby, seems to me like you wouldn't care if ur baby cries with someone to you that's just normal. I guess.

Sarah, I would rather not risk anything when it comes to my child.! I don't see how its "drama" unless other people want to make it that way. But like you said it's MY life, and I live it the way I choose, good for you and your drama free life (: kudos!

Sarah - posted on 06/18/2014

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I would agree with Shawnn. Sounds like more drama then risk. But your life not mine. If you want to create the drama and live in it for the rest of your child's life you can do so. I like my drama free life. :)

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/18/2014

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Ok, so you know everything about raising kids, Stephanie, I can tell that from your response.



I stand by my answer. You need to relax, or you're going to be one psychotic momma in a few months, if you aren't already

Stephanie - posted on 06/18/2014

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Sarah and Shawnn,
It wasn't my baby who smiled once I got her, just the fact the lady wasn't even trying to calm her down when she was crying makes me think otherwise, and like I said, I KNOW my baby and she wouldn't cry that way just cause u lay her down. She's a good baby and doesn't cry around strangers. Babies can feel when a person doesn't like them. And it's strange how when I picked her up she still kept crying. Every mom gets familiar with their babies and the way their babies cry. And the way she cried, to me it didn't sound like a cry cause she was layed down, since she never crys with anyone else in my family. But thanks for ur comments ill go with what I feel is right.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/18/2014

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Babies cry. If they sense even the slightest uncertainty in the person holding or interacting with them, and they are not familiar with the person, they cry.

Chances are, they laid the child on the bed, and she started fussing, so they picked her up to attempt to calm her, and she recognized 'not momma', and reacted. ALL kids do it. I'm a natural at getting babies to settle, but new babies are harder, because they most definitely recognize who's not their parent, and won't settle.

Learn to relax around family. Had you accused the aunt of 'hurting' the child, you would have created a HUGE amount of unnecessary drama. As it stands, you are clinging to this as a reason not to allow the child around anyone else, which is not helpful to you, or the child, and will only create more drama down the road.

Sarah - posted on 06/18/2014

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Sounds like drama to me. Babies cry when they are with someone they don't know and if she smiled as soon as you took her then to me that just points out that fact even more. If she was hurt she would not stop crying when you took her back. My advise is that if you are worried then stay with your baby when others have her. Honestly I would not make a big deal of this. From your baby's reaction it does not sound like your baby was hurt. Making a big deal out of nothing is going to cause more issues and headache in the long run. If you are worried stay with your baby when she is around others. This way you know what is going on.

Stephanie - posted on 06/18/2014

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Oh believe me I wish I could've.! And I feel as if since he doesn't get along with that side of his family they aren't going to like our baby the same, sure they may act like they wanna meet her but its just for show, and maybe even to criticize. He thinks otherwise that they actually do like our baby but u know how sometimes u have that feeling inside you that mostly always turns out right. And also like u said, some people are just evil, mean, unhappy people who like to judge everyone as if their lives are perfect. But yes I will definitely not let her carry my daughter again. And your right, God Doesn't Like Ugly,
That night when I got home I bathed her and before I put her cloths on I checked her body for anything and I saw a light scratch on her back. The next day I checked but I didn't see anything ?? But I did take a picture of it when I had seen. I wish I could've gone and do worse to her...

Ann - posted on 06/18/2014

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if is was me I would of hurt that woman. But the best thing is to do is never let them hold your baby again just be careful who hold's your baby because.there is mean people out there in the world .that is a innocent baby the baby haven't did nothing to that lady.god doesn't like that don't worry god will get that lady because god don't like ugly

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