when should your potty trained boy stop peeing at night???

Michelle - posted on 12/16/2008 ( 32 moms have responded )

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My son is potty trained during day, but wakes up wet every morning and during some naps.

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Edie - posted on 12/16/2008

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From a grandmother: My sons had a terrible time with bedwetting. I tried the bedwetting alarm with the first one, and it was a disaster; it just caused my son and me to lose sleep waking up with it, but didn't stop the problem. It didn't help that his dad was not very understanding about the problem. We even went to a urologist, who basically said to relax and let nature take care of the problem when his body developed sufficiently in that area. He also commented that most boys with bedwetting challenges were very bright children... which helped a little to ease my sons' discouragement over not being able to control this. Just be glad that pull ups exist; there was no such thing for us to use in the 1970's.

Ann - posted on 12/16/2008

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Both my boys potty trained by 2 1/2 yrs but wet at night until 5-6 yrs. Very common for boys! They will work it out, some boys are known to go as late as 10 yrs! We got our boys through it by teaching them to wake up at night to go on there own. We would take them potty every night around a few hours after we put them to bed, they eventually got up on there own and stopped wetting their bed! Be consistant at night, same time every night take them potty a few hours after you have put them to bed. Its a pain and took us over 6 months but otherwise they will sleep right through it and sleep in the wet all night! They do also sell bed alarms that go off to wake them up

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User - posted on 12/16/2008

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Get him up to go to the bathroom before you go to bed. Keep a night light on in the bathroom so that you dont have to turn on the full light. Most little kids are in bed by 8 and dont wake up until 6 or 7 the next morning. That is a long time for any person to hold it. Give it a try!

Sommer - posted on 12/16/2008

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My son was 6 before he stopped wetting the bed. We just woke him up twice at night for about 2months and he stopped. We just stretched the times out that we woke him every week until he stopped wetting or he woke up on his own. Some nights it was hard to get up but we managed.

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Wow...potty training a boy can sometimes be so difficult. We introduced the potty to my son at 2.5, and of course he was not interested. He is finally potty trained and it took us over a month to 'fully' train him during the day (he is now 3.5). Luckily, he only had 2 accidents during the night and has now gone one whole week without peeing his bed during the night. Dr. Sears recommends waking the child during his nap/sleep and taking him to the potty, so he/she can train his/her body to go to the washroom during these times. I don't know about him, but I actually appreciate my sleep. Good luck, and keep us posted on the progress.

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Helen - posted on 10/31/2011

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its pretty normal, I would still put nappy on overnight and for day naps. he sounds quite young , how old is he?

Ann - posted on 12/24/2008

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I agree with a lot of the responses when they say just wait it out. They will be dry when they are ready. My Son now 4 1/2 was potty trained at 2yrs 3months and would only have accident during the day if he was engrossed in play and didn't want to leave what he was doing. However at night is a different story, we tried taking him to bathroom before we went to bed and that seemed to work so we stopped, but he still has phases of being dry for weeks and being wet for weeks. I think it just depends on what is going on in their lives i.e starting kidergarten, christmas, new baby, moving country or house, new routine, anything can trigger a setback. I think that boys do take longer as they mature later than girls. I have a 3yr old girl but I'm just going to wait her out as we tried taking her to bathroom before we went to bed when she was 2 1/2yrs and that worked but as soon as we stopped she started wetting again, so I don't think she is ready. She was also trained during the day at 2yrs 3months but she does wear pull-ups at night, so it helps with the laundry!
I hope this helps!

Jennifer - posted on 12/23/2008

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Not to worry. My son will be 3 in January, and he only recently started being dry in the am. & after nap time. THe difference, however, was in my willingness to stop giving liquids hours before bed time( usually 2). I will allow him a small sip of water when brushing his teeth but no other liquids. It made all the difference. Just yesterday, I gave a whole package of night pullups to a mom in need:) I should probably add that my son has been peeing on th potty for almost a year, so the dry bed time did take almost a year longer. I hope this helps! Good Luck!

Heather - posted on 12/17/2008

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My daughter is almost 4 and still does pea at night. My doctors says that ervy few children at this age actually can hold it all night especially if they are deep sleepers. If it doesn't stop (on a regular basis) by kindergarten then it may need more attention.

Gisele - posted on 12/17/2008

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When potty training my son I would get him on the toilet just before I went to bed (so around 11-midnight) and it became habit for him to go to the toilet at night. He's a little over three now and hasn't had a night time accident in over 8 months. He does get up at least once a night to use the bathroom, which he comes to get me for help still. But if you haven't tried that yet, it's something to maybe try. And absolutely no liquids after he has his last potty before bed. I always get my son to go after he brushes his teeth. Hope everything works out, but don't be discouraged if it takes longer then you expected. Every child is different. Good luck

Sylvie - posted on 12/17/2008

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Too much drinking before going to bed, stop the drinking about one hour before going to bed, maybe just hald a glass just before you turn out the lights.

Tricia - posted on 12/17/2008

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Our nephew is 5 and still has this problems. Solution for now is to have him put on "pull-ups" just in case. He is doing much better and seems to have more dry nights than normal. But just knowing he has the pull ups has eased his anxiety and his mom has less laundry to do.

Shareka - posted on 12/17/2008

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Hi, wanted to share that my son was doing that same thing and excessively thirsty as well and so i took him to the doctor and that tested his blood sugar he was over the meters reading--> like 500 and they diagnosed him w/type1 juvenile diabetes..he was 3 1/2..just fyi

Judy - posted on 12/16/2008

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Have you tried limiting his fluid intake after 6pm.

My 13 month old stays dry almost every night. He hasn't mastered days yet, but he has had times he does very well we started sitting on the toliet at 4 months just in the morning before and after naps or when ever he whined to go to the potty. When he's ready he'll figure it out.

My other boys were trained early as I try to teach them it's all a fact of life.

Hartini - posted on 12/16/2008

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I trained my gals when they are about 3 - 4 yrs old. I woke up abt 2 to 3 times at night and send them to the toilet. They will usually pee eventho' they said that they will not. It takes about 1 to 2 wks and they stay dry after that.....

Kristy - posted on 12/16/2008

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My 7yr old son wets at night also, it runs in my family. my brother who is now 15 has only now over time stopped wetting at night. My mum took him to doc's and tried every thing, bed mats with alarms, stoped him drinking any fluids 3-4 hrs before bed, even the latest nasil spray, (which is designed to trigger the hormone in the childs brain, which is responsable. The spray should trigger this hormone to work as it should and mature it.) But unfortuantly nothing worked the best thing is time....My son 7 is a pritty constant wetter and i am a strong believer in not using dri nites pants or pull ups, but after many yrs of washing sheets daily, i sat my son down and talked to him about using dri nites. I told him to think about using them, and if he did to just let me know. About 3 weeks later he came to me and said that he would like to use them, because he was sick of waking up in a wet bed.

Nicole - posted on 12/16/2008

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Hi there!! I am also a mother who had a son that was not dry at night. Like him, I also was a bed wetter. I was 8 when I stopped but when I turned 6, I decided I had had enough. It didn't bother him yet but I didn't want to wait until it did. So, I asked my ped and she mentioned the bed wetting alarm. I had heard of it before but wasn't sure if it was something that really worked. Much to my surprise, it did!!! It scared the crap out of me the first few nights but within a few months COMPLETELY dry!!! He was so stinking excited!! My niece turned 5 when I let my sister use it for her and my niece was completely dry at night within a couple weeks. It's like having a newborn again for a little while but it is soooo worth it!!!!

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Both of my sons (8 & 5) still wet the bed. My 5 yo every night, my 8 yo a couple times a week. My 3 yo daughter is dry every night! My doctors have told me to wait it out, basically. There is medication you can try. I don't like the idea of giving medication to kids if you don't absolutely have to. We've tried limiting drinks in the evening. We've tried waking them in the night. None of that really helps. I've been told that as long as wetting their pants is not an issue when they are awake, they will eventually grow out of wetting in their sleep.

Pamela - posted on 12/16/2008

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my first son was a Big problem. He was potty trained during the day but was a prob and STILL a Prob at nigh even at 8 yrs, Sometimes the sphinxter muscle is not yet developed which causes the prob but also, which in my case, laziness is it.. I have to wake my son up to go to the bathroom so he doesnt wet himself. Some children are very heavy sleepers or are just plain scared to get up by themselves to use the bathroom. You should try to stop the drinks 1 1/2 - 2 hrs before bedtime. But if that doesn't work, like in my case, just wake him up in the night to use the bathroom. I had to change my sons bedding every night for years until I just realized that stopping the fluids and waking him up would do the trick. Good Luck and hope it all works out for you....Sincerely, P.D. from N.Y,.

Melissa - posted on 12/16/2008

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We started using a bedwetting alarm on my 6 year old son. It seems to be helping. He stays dry, or very little ends up in his pullup at night. I hope it helps him turn the corner. He is on board with using it and can't wait to be dry at night. His 3.5 year old sister has been dry at night for over a year now. So that has been weird. But at least one of my kids doesn't need pull ups.

Debbie - posted on 12/16/2008

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I was told to not even try to potty train either one of my kids (one of each) until they woke up dry for a week. I don't know if that is 100% right but it worked for us!

Clodi - posted on 12/16/2008

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what if you try to potty train him at least once at night? I did that to my daughter (2 yo) around 3am each night.. and right after she wakes up. hope it helps. thanks.

User - posted on 12/16/2008

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I've been told that wetting the bed is often biological and hereditary. Unfortunately, my grandfather and brother had problems into double digit ages. My son is six and has good stretches and bad. I am just thankful for Good Nights pull-ups!

Lisa - posted on 12/16/2008

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here is a little trick...both of my kids were trained at very young ages but out of me wanting to sleep at night & not have to worry about those "accidents" at night ....try this: put their panties on UNDER their pullups!!! that way you are both teaching them to feel the sensation of when they have to go & you are prepared for the times they sleep right through it. hope that helps!!

Nicole - posted on 12/16/2008

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both of mine were almost 5 or even later...i didn't really worry about it too much . you can just put them in underwear for a few nights and hopefully the wetness will make them not like it, but if they are hard sleepers then it's kind of hard. even after awhile they still had a few accidents until they were 6 or so.

Jennifer - posted on 12/16/2008

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I was a bed wetter until about 10 years old and my son was also. It is just as frustrating for the child as it is for the parents. I remember waking up dreaming that I had gotten up to go to the bathroom and had actually wet the bed. I Hated that feeling! But, anyways, I think maybe it is a developmental thing with the bladder size not matching up with the growth of the child.

Cristina - posted on 12/16/2008

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I only have girls, so Im not sure if this will help or not, but my daughter was wetting the bed at night, so we started putting pull ups on her ON TOP of her underwear, so that when she would wet the bed at night, it wouldnt accually wet the bed, but she would still feel wet... it helped, because she would usually wake up about the same time every night wet. then one day she woke the same time yelling that she had to go to the bathroom.. for about 2 weeks she would wake up and go in the potty. Then one night, she just stopped having to go until morning.

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Some boys' bodies take years to get the hang of it. Dr.s won't even worry about it until 6 or 7. One thing I've read that I liked is to switch your focus with your son. Instead of talking a lot about staying dry all night, emphasize that it's important to wake up and get to the toilet when you have to go, then make it easy with night lights or whatever is needed. It helped us a lot denying our son all drinks after 6:00.

Jessica - posted on 12/16/2008

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my ped told me that it is totally a hormonal thing - a person's body releases a hormone to tell the brain that the body is sleeping and therefore has the bladder hold on until morning. kiddos that have trouble staying dry at night do not release enough of this hormone. my son is 7 is still has bed wetting trouble. eventually there are medications that can help, but we've just opted for the wait to grow out of it route. hang in there....a lot of times they just can't help it.

Jessi - posted on 12/16/2008

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It wasn't until my sonwas 6.5 before he could stay dry at night. He had no problem during the day, but night was another story. The doctor said it could be because he was a deep sleeper and wasn't paying attention to his body signals or that his blatter didn't grown fast enough to keep up with his body. "Inmature blatter" We used pull-ups and waited it out. Finally last christmas he turned the corner and hasn't had problems since.

Ellen - posted on 12/16/2008

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my son is the same way, sometimes he will wake up dry for weeks and then next thing I know he wakes up wet in the morning for weeks! Not sure whats up with that?!?

Shae - posted on 12/16/2008

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my son (3.5) potty trained about 3 months ago, and just the last couple of weeks, he has started to have dry nights. he probably wakes up dry 4 out of 7 mornings during the week. For me, I'm hoping that the trend will continue, that he realizes that he can hold it for over night, and keep it that way.

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