when time out goes crazy

Jessica - posted on 05/10/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




When my two n three year old do naughty things they get time out. One get 2 min cause he is two n the other 3 mins to think about what they did. After the time is up i talk to them about why they where in time out . Latley they been putting up a fight they dont want to or cry the whole time. I f they up time starts over . I think it works most the time what to do when time out dont work? it more trouble to try to get them to listen n stay put after i while of trying I dont want to do time out any more cause it not working .


Jenni - posted on 05/10/2011




It's ok if they cry the entire time. You can't really expect a toddler to sit and think about what he's done in TO. That's what the chat afterwards is for. Keep it simple and to the point.

If they come out of time out, pick them up and place them back in TO without saying a word.

Don't overuse timeout. It should be a last resort. I only use timeout for physical aggression (this can include damaging property while angry), safety issues... and very very rarely... listening. You want to use TO as a last resort. If you overuse it, it will become less effective. I just posted a topic in another community that covers a lot of advice on enjoying those toddler years in regards to discipline:


For listening I get down to their level and tell them what I want them to do. If they say 'no' or refuse to do it. I count to 3. If they don't respond by 3... then, they get a timeout. I have a very defiant almost 3 year old right now and for some reason this method works on him, nearly 100% of the time. It rarely ends in a TO.


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Amy - posted on 05/10/2011




Three strikes. there's your problem. First time they do it - immediate reaction from mom. Take them out of situation and time out NOW.. Otherwise, you're saying no until you're blue in the face.

Yes, they can cry the entire time during time out. It's not supposed to be fun. I've had to sit next to them or with them on my lap and hold little arms down and calmly tell them behavior is NOT okay and we're not letting it happen. They do it again..immediately to couch to hold still. Two at a time is harder. But...depending on what the crime is, take away the toy they got in trouble with, if they throw food, take away the plate until they calm down. My son just turned 2 and he already knows when he walks away from the dinner table, his plate is gone. Keeps him sitting the whole time for supper because he learned once his fanny is gone from the table, so is his food. They learn fast. But I'm really big on not counting or extra breaks [no, 1, 2, 3..... and no, if you do that one more times..... nip it in the bud, hon!]

Jessica - posted on 05/10/2011




they pull stuffing out of they matress i tell them thats not ok , they not allowed in mommy n daddys room they go in in anyways , they brake they toys i tell over n over it not ok I give them three strikes ur in time out.

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