Jenni - posted on 09/19/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
I am in a bit of turmoil right now. My brother, while I love him dearly, seems to be struggling as a parent. He lives in our parents' basement, where he's been for years. He had a girlfriend and when she got pregnant she moved in. They have 2 children together, 6 and 8, and broke up 2 years ago and them she moved out. Since the breakup they have both gone downhill. My brother was found guilty of an assault charge by his kids' mom and also violated a PFA (also by her) and was arrested. The reason they broke up was his periodical drinking and drug abuse, which continues off and on to this day. He was charged with a DUI this past summer and spent time in jail again. He now has a suspended license and no car. When I visit family he's just in the basement not spending time with his kids. The kids, a boy and girl, share a room in the basement when they are there on the weekends. Now my brother has a girlfriend, who had 2 drug charges on her from last year and she had her baby taken from her. But this is the person my brother allows to drive around his kids and watch them and talks of moving in with her in their own place.
The former girlfriend, mother of the children, isn't much better. She leaves the kids with her mom to go out drinking and is now unemployed. She was fired for poor performance and is having serious depression issues. Every time the kids go back to her, the daughter cries and throws a tantrum. I tried talking toy mom about how these kids aren't getting the stability, love, and attention they needs but she disagrees with me and defends my brother. I offered to take the two kids in our house to help him get on his feet, but she won't hear of it. I work from home, have two great kids, extra room for them, and my husband is a university professor so we have stable income but most importantly, love and patience.
Do I intervene and call children services even though it will start a family war or continue to try to see if my brother gets it together, like my mom says?