Shelby - posted on 07/12/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
I've been with my daughters father for 4 years now. And i feel like i am both parents most of the time. Im constantly doing the cleaning, cooking, driving, grocery shopping, entertaining my daughter etc. And the only time he wants to help is when im almost done, or when i finally get mad about him not helping. He feels like i should ask him to do things, but hes 24 years old, and a dad, when will he realize what he needs to do. Im the one that grew up instantlyy when i found out i was pregnant with my daughter. Dont get me wrong we do have our good days, but lately ive been feeling like were drifting apart. Ive tried asking him to help me more, we fight about his not helping me and its escalates from there. He says that i get mad about everything, even though he waits until i blow up to decide to change, then a few days later it going back to the same damn shit. I love my daughter more then anything, but i sometimes regret having her with her dad. Is that a normal feeling?
I never get ``me`` time at all, or when i try to go to one of my best friends place he gets mad about it because he ``hates`` her, like how unfair is that. and he wonders why i get mad about every little thing cause it builds up and builds up. I honestly dont know what to do anymore, I dont know if i keep giving him chances and hope he will change, but ive honestly given him sooooo many chances, and ulitmatums and everything. I feel like everyone ive tried talked to about this is sick of hearing the same thing, and wonder why im still him. We have our good days and they are good, but when things like this happen it drives me crazy, because i dont know what to do. so any advice would be wonderful thanks ladies.