When to move on

Mel - posted on 06/03/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




My husband and I are separated, but it isnt like we dont love each other just we odnt work together, and it cannot be sorted at this point in time, but I am someone who desperately wants a long term partner, more children and a house of my own and I need someone to work at this gaol with plus I am severly missing the company, someone to give affection to. I dont know if Im ready to make the massive step of being with someone else yet plus Im afraid it will create proiblems for me and my ex's parents and him since we are still living together and cant go separate ways because its just easier this way. When is the best time for me to move on....I dont want to jump into something serious Im not ready for another guy plus Id need to spend a hell of a long time making sure he's compatible I just want someone to laugh with and spend time with me and the girls andmost of all someone to just make me happy because Ive been very miserable for months and I need something to take my mind off it


Lissa - posted on 06/03/2011




You definitely need to be in different houses to even start to work on what you want and expect from life. A very long time ago i was in that situation and honestly it's worse thinking about it than living it. Get your own place (or him to get one) then ease into your new life, it's a strange sensation to be making decision for you and yourself with no husband to think of or take into account. Quite honestly in some ways it's a lot easier on your own. You need to be happy and relaxed with yourself before you start dating again. When you do just take it easy, don't introduce anyone new to your children until you are sure about them. Also (please dont be offended this happens all too often) don't get carried away too quickly, it's easy to suddenly feel you are in love because someone all shiny and new gives you lots of attention and affection. In the meantime get your group of friends to rally round have fun with them, if that's not an option for you, join a club or group just for you. Take a pottery class. salsa dancing anything you might enjoy.

Louise - posted on 06/03/2011




I think really you need to get your ex out of the house for either of you to move on. What man is going to date a woman who lives with her husband? It is just not going to work is it. make plans together to split so that you can both start your lives again and find someone new.


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