Michele - posted on 02/13/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )
My son just turned 3 and I contemplate when i have to tell him he is adopted. My husband (whom I had known 12yrs prior) has been in my son's life since before he was 4mths old. He has raised him as his own.
The Bio signed away his rights so my husband could adopt just after my son turned 2. Bio now sends Birthday and Christmas gifts and I have no idea how to explain to my son who is sending the gifts nor when to tell him the truth.
Bio's sister has contacted me and I plan to get them introduced as I understand my son deserves to know the other side. I don't think my son needs to know the ugly truth of his bio (he tried to strangle me when i was 7mths pregnant with my son and chose to sign away his rights before his wife or 3 daughters found out).
My Husband loves my son more than anything and in just a couple weeks the adoption will be finalized and both my son & my last name (finally) will change to my husband's. We have another son under 2yr and both of my boys look alike and if you didn't know already, you would never be able to tell my son and husband aren't blood.
I know I need to tell my son but how and when is the best time? Is having him conect to his Bio-Aunt an easier way to ease him into understanding? Bio kept my son a secret from grandparents, Aunts, cousins, and siblings. Any parent or kids from this situation have any suggestions for me?
BASICALLY...when and how do I tell my son biologically Daddy isn't kin? And any tips on how to handle the