Dawn - posted on 07/11/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
I have been divorced for about 15 years, with no kids from first marriage. Happily remarried for 12 years now, and we have a four year old son. I haven't seen or talked to my ex since the divorce, and with no kids from the marriage there is really no need to. I would like advice on what age and how to tell our son that I was married before and got divorced. I just don't want him to someday "discover" my first marriage and then feel like I kept a secret from him. I don't think it should be a secret, but it doesn't seem like a topic that will very naturally just "come up". I don't want to tell him too soon before he can even understand what I'm talking about, but I don't want to wait too long to where I've been basically deceptive to him. Age four seems too young, but I can't quite figure out what age would be good. I know there must be a lot of remarried parents who face this issue, but I can't seem to find any general advice out there in the internet world about it.