When your 15 year old son starts dating

Melanie - posted on 06/06/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




I am new to the subject of my teen son is dating. They have only been dating a few weeks and only see each other at school or go to the movies or the mall. Today I come home from work and discover her in the house. Now when I walked in they were watching tv, so they say. The girlfriend left and I told my son no girls in the house when my father and I aren't home. My son kept yelling at me about not trusting him. How do I explain to him that we have rules to follow and its about respect and safety for him? He continues to yell we don't trust him and that we have nothing better to do than ruin his life. Help! Melanie


Jodi - posted on 06/06/2014




What have your rules been about having friends over in the past? It is best to set ground rules. I have always had a rule in place for my children that (1) they may not have friends over without asking first (and this includes opposite sex friends - I would rarely say no if I am home) and they may not have friends over when no adult is home (because regardless of whether I am here or not, if something happens, I could be held responsible). That's the way I currently handle it with my 16 year old.

Explain to him it isn't about not trusting him, It's about legal responsibility and respect. However, if he's been allowed to have friends over whenever he wants without asking or without anyone being home, then it could be difficult to set those ground rules now.

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