When your boyfriend possibly could have father a baby by another women

Nicole - posted on 07/04/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )




I have been with my boyfriend for 3yrs now going on 4 he's 31 & I'm 25 I really love him dearly but he cheated & got another women pregnant which she claims he's the father of the child, I can't stress the issue of how hurt I am I try now not to think about it but is so hard, which this is not his first time cheating he have a couple of time in the past but I forgave him for that now here comes a woman saying he's the father I'm so confused on what to do


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Nadine - posted on 07/05/2016




I hate to say it, but cheaters don't stop cheating. He has already cheated three times that you know of in the three years you have been together. That is not going to change. So now you have a choice to live with him, knowing he is going to cheat, or move on. Some couples can live in a non-monogamous relationship, and it works for them. You don't sound like you can be part of that couple. I personally think so long as both parties are in agreement, whatever floats your boat. But as he is "cheating" ie, behind your back, could you ever really trust him again?

Michelle - posted on 07/05/2016




My ex husband cheated on me. I tried to keep the marriage together but I couldn't trust him again.
Sometimes you need to move on. He has proven that he doesn't love you enough to be faithful, you deserve someone who will love you and only you.

Amber - posted on 07/04/2016




I know it is hard, but I think the best thing to do is move on. In a situation like this it makes the world of difference to make or have a good friend. Having someone to go out with or just talk to really helps keep your mind off of all the negative. You will also have a chance to learn new things about yourself. You may find new things you like to do. To be honest, you will probably always be hurt by this situation. But once you find the right person, all the hurt that this guy has caused won't matter to you anymore. And it will take some time, at least a few months I would say, before you may feel like you're ready to look for that new someone.

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