when your partener is a parenting slacker

Darla - posted on 07/24/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




i have been living as a married single parent for awhile. I have asked my husband what things that he could specifically help with around the house. I don't care how the chore are done just as long as they get done. He says that he will help me and he does for awhile. But after about 2 weeks he starts to slack again. Then the computer becomes more important. Then we will have another fight and the cycle starts all over again. It has become very frustrating for me. Any suggestions?


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Tonya - posted on 08/13/2011




I deal with that there are days when out of the blue he will do something like wash the dishes maybe a little laundry, but I when I ask him to join me and our daughter on a little walk to the park...no way, he's the same way with school functions, when he is available for them he still says the same thing, do I have to go? in the last 8 years I have done all family events alone with the acational tag along hubby who really doesn't want to be there and when I try to talk to him about it, it always the same thing, I just don't feel like it or I don't like to do those kinds of things. I swear we don't just raise our children we also raise our husbands. I have honestly considered leaving because it is a fight to get him to do any kind of family time, it shouldn't be a fight he should want to.

Valerie - posted on 07/24/2011




show admiration and thankfulness for the things he does as he does them...the computer is his man cave...they go to the cave to work things out...show support...give him what you need...i wish you all the best

Sherri - posted on 07/24/2011




Honestly you are NOT going to change your husband. He is who he is and fighting constantly about it is obviously getting you no where.

So at this point I would start thinking is it truly that big of a deal or not. If it is then you are going to have to decide if your marriage will make it through. If it isn't that big a deal just keep quiet about it and let it go.

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