where do I turn when the teacher is being the bully ?

Bonnie - posted on 01/15/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have an 11 year old son. He has an IEP in place for as long as he has been in school. First because he has an orthopedic condition that forced him to be in a wheelchair from k-2 and also he has ADHD and aspergers. He is by no means a child that cannot be in main stream but he does require certain accomodations. Now all through elementary school my son was bullied horrible and for the most part nothing was done. As his mother I taught him how to deal with bullies and manage to get through. Now he is in middle school so there are ALOT more children and teachers. However it is not any of his peers who are bullying him it is actually a teacher ! At first when my son would come home and tell me oh she hates me, or she is so mean etc..etc.. I chalked it up to her being a "tough teacher" and I told him as long as he does as he is told and is respectful he will do fine. As time went on I saw my son getting more and more stressed out about school to the point he would just shut down at home and be depressed. I eventually got him to open up to me and the things he told me were shocking ! This teacher has called my son "ignorant" she has laughed at the jokes that one of the other students makes at my sons expense, she completely disregards his IEP, he overheard her tell the classroom aide " I cant stand that kid " and she has refused him his right to ride up in the elevator during "her class time". He has a doc note about the elevator and a pass from the school nurse so that on the days he is having alot of pain he can use the elevator rather then climb the stairs. Last week this class was going from the first to the third floor and my son raised his hand and asked politely, may I take the elevator. The teacher said no you may not. My son responded that he has a note from the doc and the nurse had gioven him a pass and the teacher then said " not while you are in my classroom" and forced him to walk up the 3 flights. The other thing that is bothering me ALOT is that my son told me the other night when I called him out for dinner.... no mom I cannot eat tonight because I have to finish this English assignment because I dont want to " REPEAT THE GRADE" i asked him why would you say such a thing buddy, you are not going to repeat this grade and where did you even hear such a phrase. He told me that his English teacher told him when he passed in a different assignment something like " its not very good but look at the good side.... at least you wont be in my class next year when you repeat the grade" What do I do ? I have been trying to find out where I file formal complaint against this teacher, I am dealing with the DOE for the school not being in compliance with his IEP but who governs teachers behavior ? I need more then the school principal. Anyone know where I can turn >

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Terrie Lynn - posted on 01/26/2013

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YOU CALL A MEETING IMMEDIATELY WITH THE SCHOOL SOCIAL WORKER? SCHOOL PSYCHOLIGIST/ SCHOOL BOARD/ PLEASE INFORM THE SCHOOL PRICIPALS AND FOR GOD SAKE DONT FORGET TO CALL THE SCHOOL BOARD. I HAVE A DAUGHTER WHO HAS A IEP IN PLACE AND WE WENT THROUGHT SOMETHING SIMILAR TO THIS. TI GOT TO APOINT WHERE I THREATENED TO CALL IN THE MEDIA AND EXPOSE THIS TO THE NEWS. BUT PLEASE USE YOU CHAIN OF COMMAND: YOU HAVE MANY RIGHTS SO HERES THE COMMAND CHAIN...
1. Request conferenc with his teacher,
2. Request conference with school psychologist
3. Request conference with school social worker
4. Request Conference with school board officials directly over IEP Programs in your county
This should and will eradicat this problem and make sure that teacher understand this well.

Bonnie - posted on 01/26/2013

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Thank you for the advice. I have written to this teacher- In fact I have tried to communicate with her from the first week of school. I have done this via E-mail and not once recieved a reply. I always cc myself when I send anyone at school e-mails. This teacher has a history of mistreating special needs students and it is now my mission to have her dismissed from her position. I found through my research that as long ago as 16 years she has been made to write letters of apology to several families after similar situations occured. I will not allow her to abuse my son and now hopefully I can prevent her from abusing any children after my son.

Skipper - posted on 01/15/2013

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Have you spoken with the teacher? That's where I would begin. There are always two sides to every story. If you find that your son's impressions are definitely on target, with no question whatsoever, you will have more power in your complaint to the principal. Truly, without doing some groundwork first, your complaints to anyone in a higher authority position at the school or school district may not make a difference. Document everything you do, who you talk to, and logical, reasonable results that you can request once you've done your initial investigation.

Christina - posted on 01/15/2013

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My gosh, I cant believe people. Im a huge fan of putting a bully in his or her place. I think i would document a ltter to your teacher, advsing her of the behaviors she is doing, that way it is documented and it shows that u tried to communicate with her. I would write her telling her that the bahavior she is doing must Stop. if it continues take the letter and file a complaint with the principal..again have a letter for documentation. i beleive the shool board govern the teahers etc...not sure where u r but?? Thres gotta be a school board. If they are smart behavior of this teacher would be looked into. A child is there for their education. if a teahcer cant understand that no kid is cut from a cookie cutter she shouldnt teach. And every kids learns differently and teahcers need to adapt thier skills and attitudes accordingly. Im glad your standing up!! I know its hard but your doing the right thing. We advocate for our kids.and have too!

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