Samantha - posted on 09/18/2009 ( 24 moms have responded )
When my son was younger, his father and I decided that we didn't want him playing with toy guns. He received one for his 1st birthday! which we immediately threw out! We believe that this era is much less innocent then our own childhood. Guns seem to hold a different meaning these days.
My son has an Aunt (a child psychologist and school principal with a strong belief that she is 'right') and an Uncle who believe otherwise. They say that little boys playing with guns is a natural stage and no harm is done. They have purchased my son an arsenal which he plays with at their house. Recently they have started buying guns for him to play with at our home. Just yesterday they arrived with a cap gun! My son is just 4! I have heard stories about the dangers of cap guns. I don't think this is an appropriate toy for a 4 year old!
I have asked that all the guns simply disappear and that I believe my wishes on this subject should not have been undermined. Still they undermine me. Sure my son loves them and his eyes light up - but they make his play angry and aggressive. It upsets me. I was recently asked to meet with my son's pre-school teacher in regards to his aggressive play. I believe his gun and super hero obsession is directly related to this.
Am I over-reacting and making a mountain out of a mole hill? Or do other mum's think along the same lines? Our kids are subjected to so much aggressive stimuli as it is. 'Ben10' I believe, is an example of this. Until I became aware, my son was typing 'gun' into google and exposing himself to things he shouldn't. Aunt and Uncle thought this was 'clever'.
I dont' think we should encourage this kind of play. What do other mum's think?