Valeria - posted on 04/13/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )
I spoke with the father of my 6 month old baby about the monthly expenses and also custody and all those issues. We both agreed that we did not want to go to court and we have been getting along much better than before. Unfortunately he has a girlfriend, but now that we both get long and talk everyday not just about the baby but other things also. He tells me when he gets off from work and yesterday he mentioned he had been playing football in the morning which is no big deal except he hasn't told me what he's been doing in months. We had lost our communication a long long long time ago. Now that he has a girlfriend and I know about it (about 11/2 weeks since I found out he had a gf from his cousin) we seem to be talking a lot more. My question is where should I draw the line. He already made it clear that he has a gf and is "messing" around with her (shes a co-worker) and says he still loves me, yet when we talked about this new relationship he said I have to accept it... which I do, but its hard now that we're going back to our original goofy conversations. When he comes over we laugh and talk with the baby and everything seems fine. But there is this girl who I don't know. I want to get over him and everything once and for all, but he wants us to be ok. which is fine, but I don't know if me being ok and acting like nothing is wrong is the best thing to do in this situation. I keep thinking that he may leave this girl, but yet he isn't, and from what he said she came into his life in a vulnerable time when him and I were in a really bad place. I want to have a good relationship with him for my son, but I don't want him to think that everything is 100% ok when in reality it isn't or at least not to me.