Julia - posted on 08/08/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )
I'm in a bad situation. I've been engaged to my fiancé since Christmas and throughout our relationship we've had sporadic fights about every 2 to 3 weeks or every week that are really debilitating for both of us and take us days to recover from. My fiancé drinks a lot sometimes and becomes mean and critical when he does, to the point that I become scared when he drinks at all. He takes offence to this and this only fuels his anger. I became pregnant about 3 months ago and am about 14 weeks along. Our life together is not good, but when we're not fighting I'm not miserable and generally feel ok. When we fight, he tells me that he's unhappy with me most of the time and it really hurts me. He has health issues, owns a house I'm really uncomfortable living in because it's messy and dirty, but is responsible in terms of work and financial responsibilities. We fight fairly constantly. I still don't know whether to keep the baby…it's so far along…and I've been raised Christian and am so scared to go through with an abortion. I can't support the baby easily on my own, but do have some financial support from family. My Mom tells me I have to make things work with him for the sake of the baby. I don't want my life to be ruined because I got pregnant, but everything seems to awful, I just don't know what to do. My fiancé makes my life seem to dismal because he's gloomy and has so many problems he doesn't deal with. He wants me to keep the baby and would even father it on his own. I've told most of the people I know that I'm pregnant and feel like there's no way out or happy way to deal with this situation. What should I do?