KeRashawn - posted on 09/17/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
Im 20yrs old, I have a 1yr old daughter and another on the way due in November, a boy. My fiancé is 29 and he has a 4yr old daughter. Lets just start with from the beginning on this relationship. His daughter was 1 making 2 when I came into the picture. Her mother was a dead beat, so I was the one to comb her hair, buy her cute girly clothes, wash her hair, potty train her, and show her the correct way to wipe. I was also the one to take the time out to bring her places to do girly things like get her toes polished, and just was her mother figure when her mom wasn't there. At the time, I was only 18yrs old, now 20. So I took on FULL responsibility of a child that wasn't even mines when I could have been hanging out with friends enjoying myself. We ended up getting engaged, and pregnant. My daughter is now 1. Now this person that I was MADLY in love with, shows me no respect at all. He says its because I don't want to be bothered with his daughter. Well, every since I got pregnant, her mother FINALLY stepped in after the most neediest time in her life. Well, on with the story, he says I don't love his daughter since I had my own. Which is sooo not true. I love both the same, but I had a chance to experience a natural bond with my own child being that I carried her for 9 months. So, to continue, so every time his daughter comes over, we are constantly arguing. Whether its the way I answered her, if I told her she cant have some, if I told her not to pick up on her little sister. It is EVERYTHING that I do. So with me having a daughter of my own and pregnant again and she just wants to cling to me, I'm hormonal from the pregnancy, and us arguing a whole lot, ive became an emotional wreck. We went on family vacation, and we barely said two words to each other. I cried majority of the time. After the horrible vacation we had, I decided to take off my engagement ring until we or our situation had gotten better. Which was in June. He never even noticed I wasn't wearing it!!!!! So now its September, and he went away last weekend and we missed each other so much that things all of a sudden got better when he came back home. we talked our issues out, and we decided to put the engagement ring back on. Now, its OFF again. I am sooo stressed out and confused. I just need to know what actually to do??? Should I call it quits? I'm trying to stay and make it work for the sake of our kids.