which baby sleep book worked for you?

Amelia - posted on 07/27/2009 ( 19 moms have responded )

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my baby is 8 months old. he used to sleep very well at night then a few months back he got really sick and hasn't slept well since. i tried the ferber method, did NOT work for him. and i don't think i can just put him in his crib and let him cry for hours. i need HELP. he does not sleep longer than 2 hours before i have to go soothe him, i don't feed him at night so he's not waking up to eat.

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Jodi - posted on 10/09/2013

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Go the Fuck to Sleep worked for me....

But actually I am locking this thread because it is 4 years old :P

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Cassandrafalcon - posted on 10/09/2013

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Babywise schedule. Both my babies slept through the night by 8 weeks.

Deanna - posted on 08/03/2009

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I used Healthy Sleep Habits,Happy Child, by Marc Weissbluth. Maddie has slept through the night since 7 weeks. (With a few exceptions). She does wake occasionally, but if we don't disturb her, she will fall back to sleep on her own in a minute or two. I couldn't leave her to cry for very long at all. I don't think you should trust any book that tells you to let them cry for hours. Weissbluth stresses early intervention (like, the week they come home :)). But, don't focus on that. I think it will still be useful. Just read through it and take the concepts you're comfortable with. I can't remember if it came from this book or somewhere else, but we have a pretty consistent bedtime routine: Bath at the same time every night, book, bottle, and cuddling. I lay her down and she goes to sleep. Good Luck!

Amanda - posted on 07/30/2009

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The sleep easy solution (book) worked for us. It uses the sleepy planet method which does involve some crying it out but you do check in to tell your baby that you are there and everything is ok. that being said, the check in's just made my daughter cry more so we ended up leaving her to cry. it takes about 1 week and then most people, like us, find their baby sleeping through the night.

Lauren - posted on 07/30/2009

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We used "Sleeping through the night" by jodie mindell but it involves the ferber method for the most part so you may not be interested in it. The book has some great insight though as to what to do if your baby gets sick and gets off of their schedule and how to get them back on. it has worked well for our baby girl who is nine months and has been off her schedule due to illness a couple of times. I hope you find something soon - I know that is so difficult! Good Luck!

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I'm wondering how you're soothing him?Are you feeding or nursing him? I know that I fell into that trap with my Daughter when she wasn't feeling well and it took about a mth to get over it. You said that you're uncomfortable letting him cry....but unfortunately any book and I read several all suggest letting a child cry to a certain extent. I just had to wait it out with Stella ,by 10 mths she was back on track. I wish you all the luck and empathy....it's so hard to go with out sleep.

Lindsey - posted on 07/28/2009

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No Cry Sleep Solutions. Read that and give it a chance before you do the cry it out thing! I was desperate, and crying while my son cried. It worked, hands down, changed our little lives!

Lauren - posted on 07/28/2009

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"How to Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems" by Richard Ferber

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"Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Marc Weissbluth.

Christina - posted on 07/28/2009

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We use "BabyWise" and it was the best thing we ever did. All my babies (3 of them) were sleeping through the night by 8-10 weeks old. We didn't follow it to the letter, but took the principles and modified it to fit our routine. Babies do great on a schedule, and although it is hard to get them on one and we do not like to hear them cry, it was the best thing in the long run. They learned to soothe themselves and get to sleep on their own and even did so when we were out and about.

Sara - posted on 07/28/2009

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"How to Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems" by Richard Ferber and "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Marc Weissbluth. They are both full of really great info, I highly recommend them.





Question, did you actually read Ferbers book before doing the method? Because, leaving them to cry for hours is not what the method is. I would suggest that you read how to do it fully before employing any kind of method with your child.



Also, I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to sleep train your child. Sure, you should listen to your child's cues, and I don't think anyone is talking about not trying to meet your child's needs. But some people aren't in the position to do everything on their babies clocks. Some gentle proding that can help you find a happy medium so that both of you can function is ok, it doesn't make you a bad or neglectful parent.

Minnie - posted on 07/28/2009

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"Sleep training is a very normal thing that people have been doing for over 100 years in one way or another"

As opposed to allowing an infant to manage his own sleep that has been done over the last million years....which is not normal?

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OK what about me.....I might have to try CIO...my son is 15 onths old and sleeps with me and I breastfeed him to sleep (sing and rock) ....I need to try to begin a new routine that has him reading books and getting ready for bed ---then eventually into crib, ect.....I am torn btw feeling like it is a good thing to be close to my son and wishing I had got him into a crib a long time ago. I might look at baby whisperer....anyone else have this problem ?

Shaye - posted on 07/28/2009

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Babies sleep cycles are every 90 minutes and they will often "wake", stir, even cry out or check out their environment. Wait, even if they cry, a couple minutes at least before going in to check on them and they may resettle themselves. I have a video monitor that really helps me determine whether I need to go in. If I go in too early, I've noticed that my daughter isn't even fully awake and I probably wake her up by being there.

Denise - posted on 07/27/2009

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Try Healthy Sleep Habits, Healthy Child. And I'm sorry but all of the respondents who are "responding to baby's needs" are very nobel but like you I could not function having to wake up every 2 hours. Most medical indications do say that by 6 months babies have a digestive system and stomach size developed enough to let them sleep through the night. By 8 or 9 months if they wake up at night it's 95% NOT due to hunger. Sleep training is a very normal thing that people have been doing for over 100 years in one way or another. So many of us were "subjected" to the old CIO method as children and I don't know about you but I grew up to be a fine well adjusted human being. Good Luck Amelia!

Minnie - posted on 07/27/2009

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Hmmm...maybe basic primate biology?



Seriously. Infants do not have adult sleep patterns.



And really, what do you expect him to do when he wakes, get an easy-reading magazine and a cup of herbal tea?



Figure out a gentle way to put him to sleep and do that. Nursing, rocking, walking, patting, curling yourself around him in bed, etc.

Stacey - posted on 07/27/2009

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The Baby Whispherer, I don't know who wrote it but it did help... Good luck!!!!

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