WHINING kids

Melissa - posted on 08/17/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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good dayMoms i am hoping you can give me some advise. i have a year old daughter and a year old boy they are adorable but one problem is THEIR WHINING NEVER ENDS OMG i dont know what to do anymore the boy only started with his whining recently and my daughter is the pits i can no longer controll myself i feel like i am such a bad mom sometime i just yell n swear out loud because i cant take it anymore i sometimes spank my daughter which i realize only makes matters worse ,and we are living with my aunt n its kind of affecting her relaitionship with her husband ,and my aunt also shouts and screams at my daughter because she is ill and she also cant take it anymore ,,,,everything my daughter does there must be a whining included ..PLEASE PLEASE HELP

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Dove - posted on 08/17/2015

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The baby is likely copying his sister... so deal w/ the sister and it should help the baby. If she is whining try telling her once that you can't understand her when she talks like that and she needs to use her big girl voice. If she still whines calmly walk her into her bedroom and tell her that as soon as she can ask in her big girl voice she can come out and talk to you... but whining needs to stay in the bedroom cuz it hurts the grown ups ears.

Hang in there. Be firm, but gentle, calm, and consistent. She'll either stop whining soon... or be hanging out in her room a lot.

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Melissa - posted on 08/17/2015

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thanks moms for the advice you all have given me, i surely find all of it very helpful & i willmost definitely make use of all the advice given.:)

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/17/2015

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All kids go through a whiny stage. What works well is for you to remain calm, and repeat this: Momma cannot understand you when you whine. You need to use your words to tell me what is wrong, or what you want. When you can do that without whining, we will do (whatever).

When they whine about being told no, remain calm and let them know that whining will not get them what they want, and that when you say no, that is the final answer.

Keep calm and consistent. You'll get this handled in no time!

Sarah - posted on 08/17/2015

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We all have done and said things we wish we hadn't (well I have). I have four kids and whining is a frustrating behavior for sure. The reason they keep whining is it gets your attention, even if it is negative attention. When your daughter does whine, tell her gently to speak like a big girl and then respond to her request. If she spontaneously does speak to you without whining, praise what a big girl she is! Kids are kids, and they are going to be tired, cranky and whiny at times. Hang in there and give yourself a break.

Melissa - posted on 08/17/2015

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thank u for your advice ,o also see ive made a mistake while posting my daughter is 3 years old and my son is 1 years old...and you are so right i think i need to rest and need to do something maybe exercising is what i do need at the moment. i just hate feeling like i am a bad mother and i love my kids so much :(

Jensonw - posted on 08/17/2015

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The spanking, cursing, and yelling, although understandable, is only going to make things worse. When you feel this way, take a step back, take a deep breath, count to 10 backwards, and realize they're only 1 years old. When they see that you're doing this, they will stop and observe this behavior. (It's also teaches them how to have self-control of their own emotions later on.) Calmly recognize their feelings, but be firm and state that the whining behavior must stop. If your child needs something, she/he needs to ask in a nice polite fashion. Often times, kids are just little mirrors of adults. So, it's also good to check and reflect upon yourself. Get plenty of rest, and exercise. If you need more help, read Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids. Another good read is Happiest Toddler on the Block. Good luck! :)

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