Cleta - posted on 10/03/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )
Help! My 4yo whines and cries profusely in school. The teachers keep complaining and will ask me, "well is there something going on at home making him cry this way?" No, there is nothing GOING ON at home, and I have no idea why he may be crying a lot. He has always been a whiner. I have been working with him on this, but I resent the notion that there must be something wrong at home just because my child cries a lot. Am I wrong to feel this way? It could be a number of reasons. His dad is absent a lot because of work. To make up for his dads absence, I shower him with love at home, while at the same time making sure not to spoil, coddle, emasculate or create a dependence . I stress independence at home, and free independent thinking with boundaries and structure, but I also will pick him up and hold him if he needs. I dont see anything wrong with that. This is a juggling act that I already must contend with. Not to mention trying to raise him on my home. His dad and I divorced in May and he is used to him being there, but in spurts. I really don't know what to do, but hope he will grow out of it.