Giuliana - posted on 09/21/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )
I am 7 months pregnant in the state of IL with my first baby. When I found out I was pregnant (unplanned) I had the biological father go with me to planned parenthood and when the test came back positive he started yelling at me to get an abortion and saying i was selfish for letting this happen (even though i took the plan B pill as directions said to). He was very unstable and borderline harassing me to get rid of my baby. An ex (same sex relationship) stepped in and talked to him for me because she was able to be patient and calm. The biological father told both of us that he wants nothing to do with the baby because it would ruin his life (he also said he would kill himself) and that he doesn't want to hear from myself or the baby ever again. Since then, my ex (girlfriend) and i have gotten back together and she stepped up to the role he was supposed to fill. She started a career, got us a huge apartment, and has been there every step of the way for everything. So my question is, If we are married, can she put her name on the birth certificate? We plan on starting the second-parent adoption process after the baby is born. Any sort of advice would be greatly appreciated!