Who do I ask about this?

Malissa - posted on 10/13/2009 ( 43 moms have responded )

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I joined the "Moms With Wonderful Husbands" community when I joined Circle of Moms, and I just found out that I've been barred from posting there. I can't for the life of me figure out why...I've never posted anything lewd or disrespectful. The only thing I can think of is that my husband and I haven't technically been married (ie: wedding ceremony) for personal/financial reasons (our wedding date was supposed to be September 23, 2005 but was postponed) even though we're legally common-law and married to each other in every other sense possible. I just want to know why I was banned, so who do I ask about this? I don't want to cause trouble I just want to know....

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Cassie - posted on 10/29/2009

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Nichole, it is wonderful that you have chosen to follow Christ but the bible specifically says that a husband and wife must be married. Just being intimate with your significant other does not make him your husband.

I agree with Avis also. Saying that you don't have the money for a wedding has never flown for me. All you do is go to City Hall as Avis said. You do not have to put the money into a wedding to commit yourselves legally to one another as husband and wife.

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Lynn - posted on 05/13/2012

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Thank you Angela Barker for standing up for me.

I find it sad that some members of Circle Of Moms have such negative thoughts of me, but if it makes them feel better by stating this thing, I am glad they can express their opinion. I have never claimed to be any better than anyone. I have never said a negative thing about anyone. And I dont plan to do so now either.

I must say, that if a woman was to create a website called "Stepmoms Can Do It" And chatted on her site about how fun it is to be a stepmother, and how challenging it is to be a stepmother, and wanted to talk to other stepmothers on a personal level or get opinions of stepmothers to help understand things, I would not get angry if they did not include me in their group since I am not a stepmother.

I may think BUT I AM A MOTHER, I CAN HELP, I KNOW HOW IT IS, I CAN RELATE!! But the website is not for just Mothers, the website is for stepmothers. Just as the website I created is not just for partners, but is for legally married wives. A stepmother would not think she is better than me, because I am not a stepmother. And I dont think I am better than other women, just because I am legally married. I am just PROUD to be married and would love to talk with other women proud to be legally married to.

You may all continue to post negative things about me and assume why I feel ways or assume why i do things, but just remember, I have nothing negative to say about anyone. And If you saying something negative about me, makes you feel better, MORE POWER TO YA!

Angela - posted on 05/13/2012

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On her "Moms with Wonderful Husbands" Forum, Lynn has published a PINNED thread called "COMMUNITY RULES".

I would assume that anyone joining the group would have the common sense to read those rules ......

* Please stick to the simple rules which are as follows:

* No Advertising - Advertisers will be reported to higher power

* Must Be Legally Married - I love being Legally married and want to rejoice with other happily Legally Married women

* Dont Be Rude - Not everyone has the same opinion. But please dont talk down to other people just so you can feel better about your self or your beliefs. There is a difference between DEBATE and RUDENESS.

* DO NOT COMPLAIN ABOUT YOUR HUSBAND - i created this site because i was sick of people complaining about their husband. Lets be happy and talk about the positive things in life!

Now those Community Rules seem pretty clear to me!

Not getting at anyone, just saying that before you join any particular Forum, it's worth checking out their rules (or terms and conditions).

But I also agree with the person who posted on this thread saying Lynn ought to message/e-mail anyone who gets barred explaining precisely WHY they've been barred. Then they're not left wondering.

Angela - posted on 05/13/2012

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In my post I have tried to consider this matter from every angle.

I’m in Lynn’s group. I honestly don’t believe she means to be condescending in her posts and if the terms and conditions of joining her group are that members are legally married, then – to be absolutely fair – it’s her group and she makes the rules.

Lynn says that couples who are married have “a different way of feeling and living” – because they are married. Several people have posted disputing this. I can honestly say that as a married person who, before marriage, lived and shared my life with my (now) husband, I find that I really do have a different way of feeling and living now that we’re legally wed! The difference is very subtle, but it is there nevertheless. However, my husband feels things are just the same! So it’s fair to say that different people have different perceptions!

At no point has Lynn stated that any religious beliefs are the basis for her rules that members should be legally wed only, she simply wants Moms with Wonderful Husbands rather than Moms with Wonderful Partners. Why are people assuming that religious faith is the reason for this?

I live in the UK and although “Common Law Marriage” is recognised as a SOCIAL status, it has absolutely NO legal standing. In fact, it’s an outdated title for couples who live together, it’s rather an old-fashioned term! A common law husband is simply referred to as one’s partner or boyfriend – or – if the couple are planning marriage at some later stage – as a “fiancé”. I believe the legal term is “co-habiting” so in this set-up, one’s partner would be a co-habitee! Most couples, married or not married, do not look down on other couples whose relationship (or rather the legal status of their relationship) is structured differently.

In British Law it’s said that the “piece of paper” argument is weak because that one piece of paper would need replacing by SEVEN pieces of paper for an unmarried couple to have the same rights as a married couple. If you’re truly committed to one another and it’s only a piece of paper, then surely it won’t hurt to get that piece of paper!!

Many couples who are deeply committed decide NOT to marry for financial reasons like insurance, pensions, security. This is especially so if one of both of the couple are widowed or divorced from a previous spouse where monetary benefits will cease upon marriage to a new spouse. This is what is usually meant when a couple say they can’t afford to get married – they don’t necessarily mean they can’t afford a wedding ceremony!

Also, most couples recognise that marriage is more important than a wedding – people aren’t so shallow as some would like to infer. But, to be fair, a wedding is an important event in that it launches one’s marriage. Many couples who live together do have plans to marry eventually. However, the overall reduction in couples getting married (reducing every year) means that wedding services vendors are really pushing their prices up – weddings are getting more and more expensive. Many people DON’T want a short legal ceremony at City Hall (or the Register Office). They want to make a bit of a splash – and why shouldn’t they? Further pressure is given by families and friends – especially when the couple know other couples who had impressive weddings. A couple that truly love each other don’t always want to have a quick, legal fix – they feel their relationship is worth a stunning wedding and therefore will often take a long time to amass the money to pay for such a wedding.

Having said all that, there is nothing wrong whatsoever with a civil marriage ceremony. Many couples go this route and have a special wedding ceremony at some later point. Some countries (France and Turkey, to give a couple of examples) insist that ALL marriages have basic civil ceremonies so they are legally sound. Any religious ceremonies or indeed any kind of special individual ceremony may take place after the essential legal bit has taken place. A French Registrar doesn’t travel to officiate at a wedding taking place in a Stately Home, the local Zoo, any Church, Synagogue or Temple! All that fancy stuff can be done afterwards. The legal wedding ceremony takes place at the official premises authorized for solemnization of marriage!

Megan - posted on 05/11/2012

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I was also banned from the close-minded, holier then thou group.

I think Lynns reply is condescending. The undertone of her message is that she is a better person because a piece of paper says so.

Nichole - posted on 11/05/2009

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I never said anything about not having money to married. We are not legally married yet because he has been incarcerated for over two years now. We have every intention of being married after he is finished his time and the treatment that has been provided to him so that we can be a strong functional family and a benefit to society. I am not trying to make mockery of the laws of Christ either, I am a young Christian and I am still learning the ways of the Lord.

Malissa - posted on 10/30/2009

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I want to thank all of you for your support. It really is appreciated. I think we all are getting a little out of hand with the judgmental/discrimination stuff though. We're all saying that Lynn is being very prejudiced about this issue, but that honestly is what she believes (and the opinion seems to be unanimously shared withing her group) and we're kind of judging her for what she believes as well. Now I don't agree with her, but I respect her opinion, I say live, and let live. Many of you are right about money shouldn't be a factor, but we want to have a ceremony the way we want to have a ceremony and as I stated in the other post certain circumstances arose that required us to postpone our wedding. I'm not religious, I don't believe in the bible, it's right up there with Greek mythology to me (after all, those stories are indeed based on an ancient religion as well), and frankly I don't see the need to pay a complete stranger (aka justice of the peace) $200 (last I checked) to sign a paper and say out loud that we are legally committed to each other for better or worse, when we technically are legally married in every other sense. The government here sees common law that way. We pay taxes together, if we separate (perish the thought) we still have to deal with legal proceedings, if one of us dies everything still goes to the other despite not having that little piece of paper. So that is why we haven't tied the knot, yet. I really do like the idea of starting our own similar group, but I'm still getting the hang of being a new mom that works 40+ hours a week. We'll see I might get a group up and running in the near future, but until then I like the Idea of an "awesome significant other post" on the mommies and daddies who aren't married board...if they'll have us lol. Thanks again ladies (and gent.) for everything (even the debates, though they weren't my intention). You're all wonderful.
Malissa

Jessica - posted on 10/29/2009

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My personal opinion on Lynn's response:



I believe it is a very diluted, shallow opinion you have if you honestly believe that there are different feelings in marriage than there are in a commited, loving, faithful relationships. The only way I can even begin to accept that you honestly believe this to be true if you are a very insecure person and felt that you needed a legality to ensure that your husband will be faithful, loving and true. Married AND unmarried couples make vows of commitment on a daily basis, even if in simple ways. I don't think those vows are any less powerful because they weren't said in a church or in a city hall. I'm in the best relationship I've ever been in, and I just can't imagine why anyone should be so arrogant to imply that I should consider it sub-par until we are married. I'm outraged to have read this post, but also glad to know so I will boycott your group once I am married. You may be polite, but you are also prejudiced, and for that you should be ashamed. Tsk Tsk.

Cassie - posted on 10/29/2009

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Well I def agree that no one should judge anyone else. "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone." None of us are perfect and I agree with Sharon. Who cares if you're not allowed in their group; make your own.

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Now I should note that I don't care one way or the other about any of it-I'm not Christian, but I grew up in the church. I just think it's silly to judge people on their marriage practices, and I'm pointing out the hypocrisy in some of these holier-than-thou posts.

Sharon - posted on 10/29/2009

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I'm not sure why anyone cares what a narrow minded person cares or thinks about anyway? Especially as you can just start your own group. The idea seems to have plenty of support.



My husband and I were married YEARS before our state says we did, we got married because our insurance companies needed us to be - whoopee. I couldn't even tell you what day we got married. I can only tell you what year because I count it off via my daughters' birthday.



However I can tell you the day we met, what we were both wearing, what was said and what we did.



So if I were to join the "wonderful husbands" group which scarily similar to the KKK, what do I say? I've been married for 12 years or 8?



Frankly I don't give a crap. Sitting around trying to one up all the women around me while recounting what fantastic thing my husband has done lately - I don't think so.



He's an awesome man but he is not without faults. I don't give a jacks butt who else has a good husband because this one is mine and we suit each other.

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Divorce and remarriage IS being married to several people according to the Bible-look it up. The Bible says that if you divorce yourself from one not to re-marry to another, that that is adultery.

Cassie - posted on 10/29/2009

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Who referred to being married to several men or women?

I agree that common law marriage is legally considered marriage in many states; I just think it's silly to say you aren't married because it costs too much for the ceremony. I think that if you truly want to be married, you will be whether you have a ceremony or not. People are so focused on a ceremony when they should be focused on the marriage instead.

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Bleh. God also said to be married to ONE man or ONE woman, not several. And anyway, not everyone does or has to base the way they live their life on the Bible. Marriage is as much a legal ceremony as anything else-and legally, a common law marriage is a marriage in most places-which is why it exists.

Avis - posted on 10/29/2009

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Hi Ladies,

This reply is for Malissa and Nichole. I am glad that the admin. wrote you back and at least explained the policy they have. I also think that it would be nice to have a forum where people with significant others can talk/chat. On the more serious side though I would to share my views which are Bible based and not my own personal opinion. God is the institutor of marriage. It is a sacred union between a man and a woman. The Bible refers to the laws of the land, the sanctity, leave your mother and father and cling to your wife, what a crime it is if a man doesn't take care of his household and on and on. You can't take parts of the Bible that fit you and throw the rest away. You say you can't afford a wedding, well the two times I got married were at City Hall. We had a dinner at the house after and all the people that were important to us were there. Those that come to your wedding, support you and your significant other and wish you well. They are not coming to a fashion show. The other thing is that if something were to happen to either of you, legally you not being married, endangers the replacement income either of you would need to keep your house, raise the children, plan for their college and so on.Yes, marriage is in your heart, the certificate is a piece of paper, but foremost it is a sacred institution created by God. Best to both you ladies.

Avis - posted on 10/29/2009

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I agree, Malissa. You have a right to know why your posts were banned. This is a public forum as I understood it, maybe I was wrong. Hope all works out.

Avis Moran

Nichole - posted on 10/28/2009

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GUESS I CAN'T JOIN EITHER. I CONSIDER MYSELF TO BE MARRIED TO MY HUSBAND ALSO. I RENEWED MYSELF IN CHRIST AND STARTED OVER AND SINCE HE IS THE ONLY MAN I HAVE BEEN INTIMATE WITH AFTER SERIOUSLY PROFESSING JESUS AS MY SAVIOR HE IS ACCORDING TO SCRIPTURE MY HUSBAND; UNLESS I AM MISS UNDERSTANDING WHAT I HAVE READ IN THE WORD OF GOD. ANY COMMENTS?

Roger - posted on 10/26/2009

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Right on Aprii !   I've been very active Christian churches all my life and I STILL can't figure out how so many Christians can only see the words in the Bible that suit them in the moment which clearly leads to this JUDGEMENT  foolishness.  I know of no other group of people who are as judgmental as these "Super-Christians,"   And I certainly don't understand their slogans like WWJD, "What would Jesus do?"  When Jesus ALWAYS overlooked flaws in those he met.  ....Quoting April



We all have the right to make the decisions that we choose in life, but we also are not here to 'Judge'! Sadly it happens & I am assuming (maybe mistakenly) Lynn your reason for 'banning' Marlissa is religion?!. I know that it says in the Bible that we are suppose to be 'married', however it also says that we are 'NOT TO JUDGE!' The God that I serve, teaches us to wrap our arms around others (ALL) and make them feel 'welcome', & 'loved' not 'banned'.....stoned like Mary Magdalen! Lynn, I hope that your reasoning is not religion, because if so....'not cool'! But who am I to judge, that will come one day! Marlissa you handled yourself the way my God would be proud of....well done!


 

Meagan - posted on 10/25/2009

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i dont see how anyone could say "legal marraige" and "common law marraige" are different in any way besides a piece of paper making it binding. i have always been one to disagree with that tiny piece of paper that to me truly means nothing. i dont feel you need it to love some one with your whole heart and be commited and faithful to them. i dont feel there is any difference except if something goes wrong in a common law marraige you can simply end things and move on instead of having to spend twice what you paid to get married to get divorced. my parents have been divorced since i was 11 and separated since i was 7, and never got along before that. it has always been ugly between the two of them. so im sure that has everything to do with the way i feel. but no offense lynn... you have your opinion.. but in this case i believe its wrong. I have a common law marraige and I love my "husband" more than anything. I would do anything for him as he would for me. we have a beautiful 10 week old son together and our life together is amazing. we are each others rock. to me that defines marraige. not some dumb piece of paper.

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Quoting Lynn:

Hello ladies. I feel that Malissa is a very kind person and I am happy to say we have agreed to disagree on our feelings towards things. And April, please do not assume that this is a religious problem i have. The reason that I created a site of Moms with wonderful husbands is because I feel that there is a different way of feeling and living when you are married. And anyone that disagrees with me is just fine. I do not pressure more and more people to join my group, because i want only Happily Married women that are happy with the rules to the group to join. The reason that i ban people, and then dont reply to them when they send me emails is because the emails they send are rude, and I am not going to get in arguments over people in emails. life is too short to be angry and stressed. And when people ask me politely through emails why they were blocked, I always respond politely, and we part ways on good terms. Also Lisa said it is immature and ignorant to sit on a pedestal and preach to people what is right and wrong. I do not believe I am any better then others. So I do not sit on a pedestal. I simply created this group for woman that are married, because I believe there is a difference between a legal marriage and a common law marriage. I am not saying that I am better then someone who is common law married, or single, or anything. I am simply saying i love the feeling of being legally married and would like to have a group for other woman who are happy to be this way also.

Well ladies, I wish the best for all of you. You may be angry at me, but I will never have bad feelings towards you. Life is too short to be mad.


Hello, Lynn:  In spite of the backlashes and misunderstandings I'm reading, maybe you can clear this up just a little bit more specifically.  Of of the women who are in a common-law relationship vs. the women who are in a married relationship, please clarify what the different ways of feeling and living is between the two.  I'm asking because I have experienced both.  Thank you.

Tanya - posted on 10/24/2009

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i don't understand why u can't post anything on there it should not matter if u have a piece of paper or not

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Quoting Lynn:

Hello ladies. I feel that Malissa is a very kind person and I am happy to say we have agreed to disagree on our feelings towards things. And April, please do not assume that this is a religious problem i have. The reason that I created a site of Moms with wonderful husbands is because I feel that there is a different way of feeling and living when you are married. And anyone that disagrees with me is just fine. I do not pressure more and more people to join my group, because i want only Happily Married women that are happy with the rules to the group to join. The reason that i ban people, and then dont reply to them when they send me emails is because the emails they send are rude, and I am not going to get in arguments over people in emails. life is too short to be angry and stressed. And when people ask me politely through emails why they were blocked, I always respond politely, and we part ways on good terms. Also Lisa said it is immature and ignorant to sit on a pedestal and preach to people what is right and wrong. I do not believe I am any better then others. So I do not sit on a pedestal. I simply created this group for woman that are married, because I believe there is a difference between a legal marriage and a common law marriage. I am not saying that I am better then someone who is common law married, or single, or anything. I am simply saying i love the feeling of being legally married and would like to have a group for other woman who are happy to be this way also.

Well ladies, I wish the best for all of you. You may be angry at me, but I will never have bad feelings towards you. Life is too short to be mad.


Lynn, this note isn't about being mad or hating anyone... I'm not sure about where you are at but where I am common law is a legal marriage, it doesn't have a piece of paper saying your married, but it is legal. Just thought that you should know that if you are banning common law and using that they aren't legally married because they might be. Also, to maybe save you future headachs maybe if you are going to ban someone that isn't "legally married" from your group send them a quick note to let them know, it could save you getting rude messages, or having someone else starting a discussion trying to find out why. Your choice, but just an idea.

Lynn - posted on 10/23/2009

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Hello ladies. I feel that Malissa is a very kind person and I am happy to say we have agreed to disagree on our feelings towards things. And April, please do not assume that this is a religious problem i have. The reason that I created a site of Moms with wonderful husbands is because I feel that there is a different way of feeling and living when you are married. And anyone that disagrees with me is just fine. I do not pressure more and more people to join my group, because i want only Happily Married women that are happy with the rules to the group to join. The reason that i ban people, and then dont reply to them when they send me emails is because the emails they send are rude, and I am not going to get in arguments over people in emails. life is too short to be angry and stressed. And when people ask me politely through emails why they were blocked, I always respond politely, and we part ways on good terms. Also Lisa said it is immature and ignorant to sit on a pedestal and preach to people what is right and wrong. I do not believe I am any better then others. So I do not sit on a pedestal. I simply created this group for woman that are married, because I believe there is a difference between a legal marriage and a common law marriage. I am not saying that I am better then someone who is common law married, or single, or anything. I am simply saying i love the feeling of being legally married and would like to have a group for other woman who are happy to be this way also.



Well ladies, I wish the best for all of you. You may be angry at me, but I will never have bad feelings towards you. Life is too short to be mad.

April - posted on 10/23/2009

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We all have the right to make the decisions that we choose in life, but we also are not here to 'Judge'! Sadly it happens & I am assuming (maybe mistakenly) Lynn your reason for 'banning' Marlissa is religion?!. I know that it says in the Bible that we are suppose to be 'married', however it also says that we are 'NOT TO JUDGE!' The God that I serve, teaches us to wrap our arms around others (ALL) and make them feel 'welcome', & 'loved' not 'banned'.....stoned like Mary Magdalen! Lynn, I hope that your reasoning is not religion, because if so....'not cool'! But who am I to judge, that will come one day! Marlissa you handled yourself the way my God would be proud of....well done!

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Do we still live in the dark ages? *Sigh* I find it extremely annoying that you need a piece of paper to be considered a "true couple". First of all, if you are faithful to each other and love each other, why do you need a piece of paper to announce it? Now, I'm married, and I don't disagree with marriage, but I DO disagree with people looking down on those that have not (or cannot, in some instances, i.e. financially, same-sex, etc) married. It is NONE of your business. I'm more angry that someone was banned w/o any kind of notification as to why until she posted here. That is immature and ignorant. Do NOT sit on a pedestal and preach to everyone else how to live their lives. You can have whomever you wish in your group, but don't be rude to people who don't fit your standards. Apparently your mothers didn't teach you manners. Shame on you for being so rude! And that is one group I will NOT be joining, even though my husband IS wonderful. Don't be so damned snobby. This is real life, not high school, girls. Grow up.

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Quoting Malissa:

Who do I ask about this?

I joined the "Moms With Wonderful Husbands" community when I joined Circle of Moms, and I just found out that I've been barred from posting there. I can't for the life of me figure out why...I've never posted anything lewd or disrespectful. The only thing I can think of is that my husband and I haven't technically been married (ie: wedding ceremony) for personal/financial reasons (our wedding date was supposed to be September 23, 2005 but was postponed) even though we're legally common-law and married to each other in every other sense possible. I just want to know why I was banned, so who do I ask about this? I don't want to cause trouble I just want to know....



If this is how they are towards YOU  who needs people like that. Move on and find ones that are understanding and do NOT judge..My best of luck to you and your's.

Amanda - posted on 10/23/2009

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I have been in a relationship for five years and until recently was not technically married, The reason my "husabnd" and me never married is because we would lose our daughters medical insurance and she has medical problems we cant afford. He is my husband and we are commited for life. A piece of paper doesnt make him any less of a husband. Any by the way he is one of the greatest me in the world! We are married now and it has made the financial part of our lives much harder. I go to school and now I cant get financial aid. But we were so tired of the disrespect we recieved because we weren't "married" I understand both sides of the issue but I say best of luck to you and your husband. I say go to the court house and get the "paper" and then have your ceremony later if you want. We did it and it shuts up the critics.

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my gosh, whoever has the time to worry about if your married or not needs to get a life! I can't believe they ban people. I wouldn't worry if I didn't belong to that group if I was you.

Anne - posted on 10/23/2009

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should not mater wheather or not you are married..
someone out there help malissa .

Kathy - posted on 10/22/2009

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I won't say anything against that group persay because I've never even seen it... BUT a common law husband is still a husband no less...

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I too was banned from the site, with NO reasoning, when I asked why, and asked to be reinstated etc. I got no response, I sent 3 messages to the admin of that group, nothing, it must be for the same reason. I guess that if marriage goes against what you believe in then you aren't good enough for them and "living in sin"?? There is a group called Mommies and Daddies who aren't married. We could have a thread there that is about how wonderful our Partners for Life are!! I know mine sure is!!

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Quoting Lynn:

Hello, I am the one that you all have harsh feelings towards. I just wanted to write to you all and tell you that I am glad you can all vent. I hope you can all create a group for your situation and relationship status. I feel no negativity towards any of you for being angry with me. And I must say that Malissa, the one that originally started this post, is so very kind. And thank you for that. I wish only the best for you all. And if you ladies feel that you need to vent about that, then go right ahead. What ever makes you feel better.


Drop off, you small-minded cretin.  I'm tired of being polite to people who show nothing but disrespect & hide behind a curtain of "acceptance".  We're not in your group, so leave us the hell alone.

Lynn - posted on 10/22/2009

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Hello, I am the one that you all have harsh feelings towards. I just wanted to write to you all and tell you that I am glad you can all vent. I hope you can all create a group for your situation and relationship status. I feel no negativity towards any of you for being angry with me. And I must say that Malissa, the one that originally started this post, is so very kind. And thank you for that. I wish only the best for you all. And if you ladies feel that you need to vent about that, then go right ahead. What ever makes you feel better.

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Hear hear Malissa. I couldn't agree more.

I had a similar experience with that group, & to be honest, there are some extremely vile people on there! They stated specifically to me that they only wanted people who were actually married, & that they did not want people who were "together so long it's like you're married". (I think that was the 'welcome' message) I told them to go jump & left the group, whereupon I had some rather nasty messages sent to me, putting down my relationship etc.

It's not the sort of group I want to be in! I won't get started on my feelings on the matter, coz I'll go on forever!

Rock on all the women with wonderful significant others! :D

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If you start a group for 'Women with Wonderful Significant Others' I'll join - I have one. We're getting married next year (you could maybe ban me then) - but we've been together for 10 years and there aren't enough words in the language to describe what he means to me. Good luck.

Sharon - posted on 10/14/2009

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Some of these communities are run by utter screwballs.



go ahead and form your own community. to ban you without an explanation was just sour grapes on their part.



However - its their forum and they make the rules.

Malissa - posted on 10/14/2009

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Well I got a response. It is basically because we don't have a marriage certificate. It really is too bad, it was a nice community to belong to, If you're married (not common-law, but ACTUALLY married (apparently there's a difference) and you have a wonderful husband I highly recommend it. I just wish I had more time and knowledge about how to run one of these things... I'd start up a "Moms With Awesome Significant Others" group, after all they say imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. It would be the same great principle but more accessible to the general public, people like myself, who didn't or couldn't have an actual wedding ceremony (yes even same sex partners) but really are married in every other sense of the meaning, really the true sense. Because any idiot can get smashed and married in a quickie ceremony in Vegas and it's considered legal, but are they really in love, are they committed to each other for better or worse...who knows...? And before anyone flies off the handle, don't be angry about this, I'm not. Besides the administrator of the group was kind enough to write to me and explain why I'm not welcome to post there, and she did so politely and respectfully. I'd like to thank her again for that if she happens to read this post again. Seriously though I think it would be cool to have a place where we all could talk about how great our significant others are and why, what do yoy think?

Sheila - posted on 10/14/2009

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Have you tried the 'contact us' button. Very rude to block you out like that without clarifying there actions with you. I thought this would be a cool, refreshing site to be open to every mum without prejudice of any kind especially religious reasons.

Amanda - posted on 10/13/2009

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if you can get intouch with the person in charge of the group ask them. Or someone incharge with this gro up.

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