Who is my baby father

Katie - posted on 10/31/2015 ( 19 moms have responded )

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I have had unprotected sex with my bf for 2 years 6 months and i never got pregnant but we broke up i took a trip and had sex with this guy on june 25 through july 9 but he pulled out i then got my period on june 28 for 3 days it went off and a few days later like july 5 it came on for 3 weeks i had unprotected sex with my bf july 13 while my period was on and after and he always cums in me but 2 months later I find out im pregnant and my due date according to measurments is may 17 i do not know if i had a period the begining of aug because my period for july lasted all month and i have never had a period that lasts that long who could be the babys father my bf or the other guy?? Im thinking its the trip guy because my bf could never get me pregnant but everything else says its my bf!!

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Ev - posted on 11/03/2015

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Well said Raye.

Katie, what I am about to say below here is not directed at you but just really something I have noted when reading posts similar to yours. I am not saying you are a bad person or anything but this is something I have noted:

I am sure the rest of you have read a lot of posts similar to this if not the same ones I have where it is asked who the father of the coming child is. Reading the post tells us that this particular woman has not only slep with her SO but with one more guy or several more guys and then expects us to be able to tell her who the father is. It galls me to think that none of them had ever thought to do something to prevent this when they full well know unprotected sex can cause pregnancy. They also know or should know those so called methods such as "pulling out" are not going to keep a pregnancy from happening. Yet they want us to tell them what they want to hear.

I am just wondering why they think they need to have sex with any guy they meet up with too. Do they not understand that the guy does not respect them because he is getting what he wants? I would think they would want that over having the sex. But that is just me. Sex with a guy does not make you any kind of person. Its what is inside of you that makes you that person. And if a child is not wanted at this point and time, think before you do the act. Protect yourself against becoming pregnant and against those diseases that could impact you the rest of your lives.

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Hey gurls i need help with knowing who got me pregnant. I had sex with guy A feb17(unprotected) and guy B from jail got out the 18 or feb and we had sex the 18 19 20 of feb then!! My period came on feb 21st-25th me and guy B had sex on the 24th of feb and has had sex sence then. I am now 9wks and 2days my conception date was march 5 as the online calculator says and i know about the gestional age add 2wks and fetal age minus 2wks but im still confused please help ohh i had a positive pregnancy test march 19 so can anybody help me figure this out ?????

Raye - posted on 11/03/2015

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If you're not in a stable, loving relationship, you should be using birth control and not getting pregnant. Pulling out is not reliable birth control. But, you're past that point now. I hope you've learned from it.

You should get a DNA test done after the baby is born, just to make sure who the father is. If at any time you're not in a relationship with the real father after the baby is born, you need to go to court and apply for child support, and get custody established for yourself and set up a visitation agreement for the father to be able to see his child. Whoever the father turns out to be, you are now going to have to co-parent with that guy for the rest of your life because you have a child together.

If you had bleeding for 3 weeks in July, then that's not normal and you may have other problems going on. You should talk to your doctor about that.

Just because your BF never got you pregnant before, doesn't mean that he couldn't have gotten you pregnant at all. There are a lot of factors that need to line up for successful fertilization of the egg. Sometimes people get pregnant after having sex once. Sometimes people get pregnant after having sex many, many times and trying for a baby for years. It just depends on when everything happens perfectly for fertilization.

Ev - posted on 11/03/2015

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Kate--ANd you do not know who that ex has been since you parted ways. WHy would you go be with an ex if you care so much for this current BF? As the others said they are sure the only real way to know who dad is is to get DNA done.

Katie - posted on 11/03/2015

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Yes because he is my ex and he moved to the bahamas n i took a vacation there to b with him for 1 whole month and we got tested together there and yes they did a test im clean my problem is i know pre ejaculation carrys sperm but i didnt know that b4 we had sex but trip guy was just a easy way to just describe him

Sarah - posted on 11/03/2015

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If this was an old relationship, we have no way to know that as you call him "trip guy". And I can't imagine you had him tested on vacation? Part of your prenatal exam should have included STD screening.

Katie - posted on 11/03/2015

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Well it wasnt a random guy it was my ex for 6 years but he doesnt mean as much to me as my bf now and i got him tested b4 we had sex but u are right because i wouldnt be in this situation now if we had used protection

Dove - posted on 11/03/2015

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That May due date... counting back 40 weeks... you likely conceived mid/late August.

You should do a DNA test after the birth just to make sure... and I seriously hope unprotected sex w/ a random guy was just this one time event... because there are a lot more concerns w/ that that do not include pregnancy. Make sure you get tested for STDs.

Katie - posted on 11/03/2015

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Well if ultrasounds are that accurate then my due date is right thank you very much

Sarah - posted on 11/03/2015

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Sperm can be present in pre-ejaculation fluid and pulling out is not reliable. Do you hope it is the "trip guy" because as Jodi pointed out a mid may due date, indicates a late August or early September conception. If you conceived on or around July 5 you'd be due mid April. A baby may measure small on exam, but on ultrasound no way will it show a four week developmental difference. Today's ultrasounds can measure within days the fetal age. Also, in that first trimester there are developmental changes that happen week to week. Small or not, if those developments are there, then the projected "age" of the fetus is accurate.
Bottom line, could it be the "trip guy"? Maybe. Could it be your BF? Maybe. One way to find out and that is a DNA test when baby arrives.

Katie - posted on 11/03/2015

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It was never a reason the my doctor said just keep trying but he never got his sperm tested but the first guy pulled out and i was on my period for 3 weeks after me n him had sex but we wlso had sex like the first week of my period i may just be panicing because of the coincidental time but facts say its more likely my bf

Katie - posted on 11/03/2015

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I was thinking i cant really go by that because my first child measured small also what are the chances that his pre ejaculation got me pregnant while i was on my period?

Jodi - posted on 10/31/2015

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A May due date indicates an August conception. Highly unlikely you are pregnant to the random guy.

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