Julie - posted on 07/04/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )
I've never typed on here before as i've just signe up. I hope this is the right spot. My ex and i (seperated not divorced) now live in seperate homes. I still have the family home which has been up for sale for a year with no luck. The kids are with me 10 days and with their dad for 4. He has no car as we agreed with my long commute that i would take it over. which i did. He moved closer to where the kids attend daycare which is also where i work. He can walk them to daycare on his days and pick them up. He gets them on a saturday until that wednesday. What i'm curious is who is responsible for making sure they get to their dad on the saturday. We have a court agreement through family justice that states it's the saturday with no time (which i am trying ot add for it to be more specific) and it does not stated who is responsible for making sure the kids get to their dad. Since november i have done it since i've had the car. In recent weeks, my ex's parents have "lent" him a car that they had supposedly given us, but because they didn't put it in our name, they took it back when we seperated. Anyways. ...the car has returned to his apartment where he says he is only allowed to use it for emergencies for the kids and to go visit his parents who live four hours away. I believe this is garbage...and don't believe he is not using it for visiting his girlfriend etc. I have requested that since he now has access to a vehicle (and it is being kept at his place) that he come and pick up the kids. He says he will not as he is not allowed to use the car for this. I think this is ridiculous that he has this car and supposedly his parents won't let him use it for picking up his kids. I have sent him an email stating that while he has access to a car i expect him to pick up. He did two weeks ago as he was going out of town to visit his parents. I have emailed him about this upcoming weekend if they are being picked up to go away or if not we will need to make alternate arrangements for them to get to his place. My question. Is it my job to drop the kids off to their dad? or can i offer that we meet part way at a skytrain or tell him he need to pick up? I think it's only fair that he does his share but i don't know what i can and can't do..would appreciate some help! Thanks so much!