Suzanne - posted on 09/01/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )
I have been dating a man for a year and we are considering marriage. We both have kids age 18 above from our previous marriage. One day he asked if he and my son have an accident and I can save only one, who would I save. I believe in Bible teaching that the order of love is God, Spouse and Kids. Without hesitation I said spouse and I believe if my spouse loves me he would ask me to save my son first. When the question was put to him I was shocked that he said he would save his son first without considering what I have just said. Naturally I felt unloved and he said his action has nothing to do with loving me less. He loves both but felt child's need is before parent. I am totally confused now about his love for me because I still believe in perfect love I should put my spouse over my child and he will love me back by putting my child before himself. The final answer is still that the child is saved but mine is without sacrificing him to save my son and his is sacrificing me to save his son. Does that mean he loves me less?