Whose Last Name Should I Use?
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~â¥Little Miss - posted on 02/27/2014
I personally would use my own. If I am not married, why should I give the baby the fathers last name? It is really personal preference, and most men will throw a fucking fit if you don't use their last name. Don't be bullied. Do what you feel is right.
Lisa - posted on 03/12/2014
Personally I believe a child's surname represents their lineage. The name speaks of the child's own relationship with their ancestors, not the current status of the mother and father's relationship.
Having said that, the significance of the surname differs from culture to culture. In some, the surname you use depends on the gender of the baby. Historically in some cultures the paternal surname denoted the father / husband's right of ownership to all assets that might otherwise have been held by women or children. That has changed! But in many modern versions the father bestows their name on the child through marriage.
My own opinion is that I think the act of creating a child means both names are on the table. So whether you choose the maternal or paternal name is up to you as parents or as mother or father if one is absent. The main thing to take into account is what would be best for the child now and as they grow into adults.
Best of luck with your decision and the birth of your lovely bubba.
Laura - posted on 02/27/2014
Generally you can use any name you choose for your baby. If you look at a birth certificate you will see a place for the child's name (John James last-name-of-your-choice), a place for the mother's BIRTH name (Sarah Jane Smith) and a place for the father's name (Adam Ant Jones)...there is no box to check if the parents are married or not.
I do encourage you to think carefully when deciding the last name for your baby. Is the father planning to be involved in the baby's life for life and support him, or do you think he may move on and be more trouble than he's worth? The father is obligated to pay child support regardless of marital status. Good luck and keep us posted!
Kimberly - posted on 02/26/2014
Relax, something like 48% of first babies, and 41 % of all babies born each year in America are born to unmarried females (including my three, but thankfully not my daughters---so far). In most states, probably all, the mother can give the child any name they choose, like George Bush Jr, or Barack Obama, Jr. Also, if you're in a paternity action, the state can arrange to change the kids last name to that of the father when the DNA test confirms him as the father, but you can even do it without the paternity action. .
By all means I would if the father is OK with it.
My three are half siblings and all have their fathers name on the birth certificate.
I hope this helps you in some way
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