Cikku - posted on 12/10/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
Hi to all,
First of all I am an uncle not a mum but please hear me out.
My problem is as follows.
The daughter of my wife's sister is 6 years old. Just some background on her before I give the problem. She lives with her grand parents (both very honest and good people though a bit too religious in my opinion, not that is nothing wrong with that). Her father is unknown (well her mother can choose between 8 to 12 guys though to put the blame on), her mother has gone to live with another man (thank god finally so less bad examples to her daughter). Her mother is a good for nothing that has thank god a part-time employment. She does not care about the girl and is not the first time I heard her curse her own daughter for playing or something like that. My wife's other sister is an LSA but she spoils her rotten like her grand parents. At 6 years old she has already tried to hit her grand parents repeatedly. I discipline her and she is kinda careful how she interacts with me and she obeys me. To a lesser extent my wife. Her home and my wife's other sister home were she occasionally sleeps are very disorganized and dirty. Our house on the other end is very clean and I think she notices it when she comes around. At any rate that was a summary now to the problems.
1) She has the very bad habit of opening other people's belongings without permission, especially when her grand parents and/or my wife's sister (not her mother as she only comes by to cry) are around
2) She pees in her underwear when she is anywhere apart from school (even on her way back from school). She knows when she needs to go, just she does not go. I think the problem is mentally but dunno.
I know I am just her uncle and not even by blood at that but I kinda feel bad for her but not to the extent that I spoil her like everyone else, any ideas?