Why 6 years old Call his mom Mother

Sam - posted on 04/16/2013 ( 10 moms have responded )

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We been divorced over 3 years and my ex-wife she never had always problem with our son even when we were together , and I been blamed for it lost custody lost visitation and have monitored visit and we are going throw very hard time my son and I . He is very close to me and anyone can see that , he has asthma and we are fighting for his custody she never gave him his inhaler and I do take care him and love him and
I notice during last visit it was monitor and I am recoding everything to protect me he never address his mom as a mom he calls her mother while he calls me pop, daddy and he tells everyone he is my daddy but he calls him mom as mother. I am wondering if anyone had the same issue and even he calls her by her name
I don't what is wrong with system if child loves his dad ?

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Jodi - posted on 04/16/2013

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Oh, FFS, get over yourself. No-one judged you. You clearly didn't READ any of the responses properly. Not a single person here accused you of not being a good dad or claimed you deserved the situation you were in.

And please don't go around marking posts you clearly have issues with as "funny".

Liz - posted on 04/16/2013

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All you can really do at this point is to work with your lawyer and progress things along the legal route.

Dove - posted on 04/16/2013

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We didn't call you a bad dad. Get over yourself like Jodi said.

I don't know where you are located, but, at least in the US, MANY, MANY judges and courts are getting more and more into father's rights and in MANY cases... joint custody is automatically given unless there is a very good reason for a judge to rule otherwise. Therefore.... either the judge had reason to rule what was ruled, the judge is crap, or you live somewhere that is still screwed up and backwards.

In MY case.... my ex didn't even see his kids for over a year and when we went to court the ONLY reason he didn't get joint custody is because he moved too far away for it to be practical, so.... if you only have supervised visitations.... there has to be a reason. Maybe it isn't a good, legitimate reason, but there HAD to be a reason. If you want to get your kid back.... you have to 'play' the court's 'game'.... you can think that's funny all you want, but we WERE just trying to help you.

Suck it up buttercup.

Jodi - posted on 04/16/2013

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Your post is a little difficult to understand, but I hardly think a child calling his mum "mother" is an indication he doesn't love her or have a relationship with her.

With regard to your supervised visitation, I'm sorry that's all you have. Clearly there was some reason the judge made that decision, whether based on truth or lies, and now you are going to have to prove your dedication and love for your son in those visits for a while, then apply to the courts again for unsupervised access.

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Sam - posted on 04/16/2013

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My 6 years old son whispered to me that they are trying to say that you are saying bad things to me and he accuses the lady who was doing the monitoring. He asked so many time that he wants to speak to the judge he is hurting and very angry at her when he goes back even after the monitoring visits and she accused professional monitor service we had 5 visits done by 2 ladies and both were positive the judge rejected and now she has her friends are doing it what do you call that

Sam - posted on 04/16/2013

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My 6 years old son whispered to me that they are trying to say that you are saying bad things to me and he accuses the lady who was doing the monitoring. He asked so many time that he wants to speak to the judge he is hurting and very angry at her when he goes back even after the monitoring visits and she accused professional monitor service we had 5 visits done by 2 ladies and both were positive the judge rejected and now she has her friends are doing it what do you call that

Sam - posted on 04/16/2013

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I was born in USA and I live in Los Angles THE JUDGE is CRAP all he had her say nothing
this mother she Armenian bride and I went Married her in her country when she came to USA got pregnant and she even tried to abort him and I was against it because I am minister . On his 3rd birthday she accuse me with Domestic Violence and she lived for 3 years in Russian run woman shelter and she go all the help that she can get she did try to kidnap him 2 times and now my son’s passport on hold at state department . I need help against BAD JUDGE and my attorney he is moving the case out his court room .I have evidence that she medically neglecting him while all she had to say “the child told me I am bad mom after he visit his dad “ we asked for minors counsel , to ask the child only she had to say that there no Domestic violence charges . I have CPS now investing her and tax payers paying for he $1500 2 bedroom apartment . I seen mother fight fathers to be in their children life and I have another son from another marriage and I have his custody since 2001. I am fighting to make sure that my son’s asthma under control and he can go to church and spend time with his other sibling .

Sam - posted on 04/16/2013

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I was born in USA and I live in Los Angles THE JUDGE is CRAP all he had her say nothing
this mother she Armenian bride and I went Married her in her country when she came to USA got pregnant and she even tried to abort him and I was against it because I am minister . On his 3rd birthday she accuse me with Domestic Violence and she lived for 3 years in Russian run woman shelter and she go all the help that she can get she did try to kidnap him 2 times and now my son’s passport on hold at state department . I need help against BAD JUDGE and my attorney he is moving the case out his court room .I have evidence that she medically neglecting him while all she had to say “the child told me I am bad mom after he visit his dad “ we asked for minors counsel , to ask the child only she had to say that there no Domestic violence charges . I have CPS now investing her and tax payers paying for he $1500 2 bedroom apartment . I seen mother fight fathers to be in their children life and I have another son from another marriage and I have his custody since 2001. I am fighting to make sure that my son’s asthma under control and he can go to church and spend time with his other sibling .

Sam - posted on 04/16/2013

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Why I am not surprise ….. I GUESS EVERYONE THINKS DAD IS BAD and mother she is always perfect (Angel) or the JUDGE is PERFECT when he is against father or child has no say so if this was a mom then I am sure that I would had different posts . All mother needs to say “the child told me I am bad mom dad told him “ that works like magic while the mother is jealous and she cannot see her son loves his dad and blaming him for her frailer as a parent or as wife on her husband playing the victim and victim mentality there are very good dad and bad dad also there are so many bad mom out there gender has nothing to do with . The Child has Asthma for 2 years and she never gave him his inhaler and he been in ER 3 time while I take care of him make sure that he has his medication I do not visitation I am a parent and good one while and bad parent has the custody I am going after his custody and visitation for her and I need to see that people start supporting good dads against such a thing

Dove - posted on 04/16/2013

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Ditto Jodi. I can't imagine a father losing visitation without solid evidence though... Either that or a crooked judge.

Don't put any stock into what your son does or does not call his mother. Just focus on you and your relationship with him and doing whatever the court has ordered in order for you to be a real part of his life. IF you can get that done.... maybe custody will come in time if that is in his best interest.

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