Dana - posted on 03/06/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )
I am a mother of 3 beautiful girls, 7yr, 3yr and 1yr. My oldest daughter was from a previous relationship. She frustrates me so much that I lose my temper daily. She can't follow instructions, and she doesn't listen. I have spanked her in the past, and now I don't feel its right. I also used to have her stand at the wall for time outs, which just doesn't work - never really did. I've tried having her write sentences. I've tried the military style with physical work. Nothing seems to make a difference, so now I think it has to be me. But I don't have this mindset with my other daughters. I wonder if it has something to do with hidden ill feelings towards her father and I'm taking it out on her?... I end up screaming at her and saying things like "what is the matter with you?" which just tears me up inside. I'm doing it all wrong and I feel like the worst parent in the world, but I don't know how to stop and correct this. She deserves better than this. Sometimes my anger flares first thing in the morning, others is right when she gets home from school, or right before she goes to bed. Am I the only one? Please help me...