Why are boys fasinated by their penises?? How do we teach respect regarding that?

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Shawnn - posted on 04/23/2010

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Because it sticks out! Having raised 2 boys, as long as you don't act shocked or disturbed by his curiosity about his own body, then he won't be ashamed. We never even really had to tell them that it was impolite to touch/play in public, because they already knew that it was inappropriate behavior to expose themselves. (we covered that with the "naked" phase when they were 2 or so). So, basically, the more attention you bring to the matter, the harder it will be to get them to leave it alone. Gently point out inappropriate behavior if it occurs, but don't stress on it, because, after all, he is a boy, and it is endemic to gender...

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Bec - posted on 06/26/2011

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Not sure how old your son is but it is natural to explore ones body and prance about when young. I wish i had their confidence LOL

Tracy - posted on 04/28/2010

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Thanks for the tip Shawnn. Sam is 6 and he too is allergic to chores.....so that may work:)

Shawnn - posted on 04/26/2010

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Ah, that's a whole different world, Tracy! How old is your son? Sounds like 5-6? That's the age where everything their friends say must be OK for them too. We handled that one by telling ours that if their words got them in trouble on the bus, they'd have to do chores for gas money so we could give them rides to school...Never had to enforce it, because mine were "allergic" to chores...they didn't want to give up play time.

Tracy - posted on 04/26/2010

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Thank You for all the feedback!!! It does seem to be a gender thing for sure! So he comes by it honestly. All I have to do is watch his daddy for one minute to know! I guess I should explain why I posed the question. A phone call from the Bus Driver.....Sam's favorite word is "Weener" Bus driver has given many warnings to stop with no success. At home we never use slang and have said many times to respect our private areas. And that it is not appropriate to shout out the words penis, weener, poopie butt, etc..... Still it doesn't seem to be getting through and I want to not make a BIG deal about it but when the bus driver calls.....we all know that we learn the bad stuff on the bus!;) Just wanted to get other moms feedback. This is a great forum! Thanks.

Jodi - posted on 04/23/2010

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LMAO, Tracey, I read Jamie's response too and wondered the same thing....My hubby is in his mid 40s and still sometimes stands there and adjusts himself and doesn't realise he is doing it. It cracks me up!!!

Kathy - posted on 04/23/2010

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ROFLMA!! In a few years, you will be asking why boys are fascinated with BOOBS! Sheesh boys. Even my husband is always reaching down "adjusting". Take a night and quietly watch your husband or boyfriend-you will be shocked how many times they reach down and "adjust". Now if your boy is doing more than spaced-out shifting things around, then explain that is ok to "adjust" but that needs to be done in his bedroom. Then start reminding him everytime he gets in that mood to go to his bedroom. Ughh boys, what a strange species. LOL

Corena - posted on 04/23/2010

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I've taught my kids, male and female, that touching themselves is fine as long as it is done in the privacy of their bedroom.

Tracy - posted on 04/23/2010

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Hey, Jamie, the fascination wanes? When? I seem to know a lot of grown men who are STILL enthralled

Emilie - posted on 04/23/2010

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My son never played with his much, but my nephew would walk around with his hand down his diaper or training pants all the time. They had to put overalls on him so he couldn't put his hand down there. After a while I guess that broke him from it and we could put regulare pants on him again.

Jessica - posted on 04/23/2010

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I like your question. I think that it is appropriate. My son is 4 years old and twice now he has told me that something made his penis "tickle". The last time was today when we were in the car going to his Aunts'. I guess that it was something about going down hill. I told him that it was just a bodily sensation. Sometimes that happens to me in my stomach. I also told him that it is not appropriate to talk about his penis out loud like that. I also said "Oh its just because you're a Morrison". (That he would talk about it). his father was named after Jim Morrison.

Allison - posted on 04/23/2010

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Because bodies are fascinating, I guess :) Our son (3 years old) isn't totally obsessed with it, but does touch it when he's naked, and we just don't talk about it - I think it's fine as long as he's in the bath, going potty, etc. But if he ever tried to show it off or touch it in public (as I suspect might happen...) I would explain to him that he is only allowed to touch it in private, like in his own bedroom or bathroom, and not show it to anyone else. But we always try to answer his questions as honestly as possible (for example: mom, where's your penis? lol) Also, we've always given him opportunities to run around w/o clothes on at home when he feels like it (which isn't often), and just explain to him that he needs to cover up when going places or seeing other people. That way he enjoys putting on clothes (and doesn't take them off!) when it's time to go somewhere or have people over :)

Jamie - posted on 04/23/2010

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It has something to do with self exploration. The fascination wanes as they get older and the novelty wears off.

Tracy - posted on 04/23/2010

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It's their first favorite toy. I tell my son (8 yrs) that his body is to be kept to himself. As far as I'm concerned, if he's in the bathroom or his bedroom by himself, he can do what he wants with it.

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